|
Suggestions??
Everytime your have a really bad mood or memory, counter it by remembering a good one. Let the good memory have the same people, places, and things as the bad memory. Or at least an "overwhelming" feeling that counter the feeling of sadness in a good way. I suggest making the counter memories funny. For example...
"Parents Fighting?"
Counter it, with you having a real proud moment of them, or a time when they did something truly hilarious together.
"Bad Breakup?"
Some are easier to get over than others, but from what I'm told crushing on another prospect may be all it takes. Depending on whether you're the dumped or dumpee, remember the reason(s) your relationship fell apart.
Sometimes... you can see why it was a bad match-up in the first place, and why you ignored the signals and red flags for the person you did.
Most of the time, you find out a lot more about yourself.
A Riskier Suggestion? (re:bad memories...)
You do have a choice to making them sadder, in order to remember how 'NOT" to feel about certain situations ever again. It's a way to "force" yourself to not to make the "same" mistakes, over and over and over again. This is riskier, because you "should" have a emotional and mental support system around you to handle/contradict being extremely sad/emotionally withdraws and depressed. The possibilty that you may not, IS the risk.
Now as for Physical Symptoms...
like the anxieties, the stomaches and breathing, it's mostly your nervous system and brainwaves working together in overtime. They can either be used as an adrenaline rush to pushed through a wall you've built around certain things, your body's way of telling you RELAX "OR" they're way of telling you to get the hell out of dodge!
If you need a breath of fresh air? Go get some air.
If you need to take a seat? Sit down.
If you need to vent by ranting inwardly or outloud? Make that possible as quick as possible.
Think of it this way... Fight, Flight, Land or Retreat. All battles are not wars and all wars don't have battles. The strength to decide lies within you.
Hope the suggestions contributes to making better memories that outnumber the bad ones.
|
