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k my boyfriend of two years and i have been rocky any way right now like we are fighting. well things were going good again until i go on facebook and see these pictures of these girls who are 15 16 with him but they were at his friends house and his friends little sister and her friend were taking pix now there were two that were just of the girls and him and he sees nothing wrong with them yet everytime i ask him who he is with its boys that he chills with and these were taken the other night and he said he told me but i think id remember him telling me that hes with a girl especially one im not to happy with. every time i see these i want to break up with him am i being stupid? and when something like that happends i want to approach it in a diffent way instead of straight bitching at him. idk what to do any more.
I don't necessarily think that just because he has pictures with them on facebook that he's interested in them, though. It's more than likely that these girls are the ones who want to hang around with him (younger girls love being around older guys) and are excited that he was there and therefore want to brag about their encounter with an older guy on facebook. They probably took the initiative to take the pictures and he just happened to be there to pose with them. Happens all the time. It's more than likely just an attempt to brag to their friends or make themselves seem more mature. He probably was just hanging out with his boys when the sister and her friends showed up and started getting in on the action. Trust me, my sister is 15, she tries to hang out with my boyfriend and his friends all the time. It's an attention thing. The younger girls like showing off that they talk to older guys. They probably don't even like your boyfriend, and even if they do, he's with YOU. You've been with him for two years, that has to count for something. I think that you should wait this out and see what happens. Don't throw away your relationship until you are absolutely positive that he isn't committed to you anymore - like if you find out that he's flirting with these girls or anything more serious than a couple pics. (As long as that's the only reason you were thinking of breaking up with him.)
I don't think you're being stupid. It's normal to feel uncomfortable when you see your boyfriend with other girls, especially when things aren't going so well for the two of you. When my boyfriend and I were on the rocks, I felt awful when I saw how happy he was when he was with his friends, and it was even worse to see him talking to another girl. I know how you're feeling. But you're right about how you should be approaching it in a different way as opposed to yelling at him. Don't accuse him of anything; try and be chill about it but also be direct in telling him that it's bothering you. Don't let this bottle up because then you'll be more likely to resent him and lash out later. What to do right now? Try and talk about how you feel with him - without getting mad but still being honest. Make sure he knows how you feel but don't be too harsh because that could push your relationship over the edge. Maybe he doesn't even know that this is hurting your feelings, and that's why you need to communicate with him in a calm, cool and collective way. If he is a jerk after all of that, or if anything more drastic happens, then I'd say it's time to end things. Hopefully everything will work out!
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perfect advice thank you!
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