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20/f, dating a 20/m.
My bf and I have been together for almost three months, and we're getting ready to start having intercourse. Niether of us are virgins, and we've done basically everything else with each other except have sex. In the past month I've begun birth control and he and I have both gotten tested for STDs, and we're planning on using condoms. So safe sex is a sure thing.
But I also believe that having a dialogue about sex before starting it is crucial, involving discussing our sexual history. I've told him about my sexual past, including funny embarassing stories and things that I do and don't like in bed. He didn't seem at all uncomfortable with hearing it and it really got us to a new level of trust. I invited him to share his experiences with me, but all he said he didn't like talking about it.
I'm really curious about his past, but I don't want to pressure him into telling me about anything that makes him uncomfortable. All I know is that he's had "Maybe just the one" previous partner, but I don't know anything else. Should I just get used to not knowing? I really don't want to pry, but if I'm going to be sleeping with him, does that make it at least a little of my business? Or no? I'm confused and I just want to know if I should drop the whole subject, and get used to being curious.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Communication is a huge thing in any relationship, Sexual talk is even bigger because we spill out our dos and don't dislikes and likes etc. If your boyfriend can't be mature enough to discuss his past with you then he isn't mature enough to be having sex with simple as that. Discussing sex with your partner is important, We learn where they come from who they been with and it brings a whole new level of trust. I certainly would not want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to tell me their past. Sure, It is not everyone's favorite topic but sometimes we need to except the fact that not everything is a piece of pie to discuss with our partners. If he won't talk to you, Move on
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