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My boyfriend of 3 years and I have been having some problems before but it has gone way too far. I don't know what to do anymore because I love him but I found out that our whole relationship has been based on a lie. I was suspicious of him one day and checked him one email and found pictures of girls in their bra and panties and bathing suits that he had been talking to. He had a wouldyouhitthis.com account when we first started dating and promised to close it. All this time I thought it was closed and I tried to get over the whole email thing. But today I just found that he has had his account open since at least July 24,2008 and has been flirting, looking at, and talking to these girls on the sex site. I don't know what to do anymore. He lied to me this whole time and told me his account was closed except he randomly opened it before christmas but then closed it. He lied, he didn't open it around christmas, he had it open since at least July 24,2008. Two days before my birthday... what a great present and I didn't even know it. He has been talking to girls still too. He said he was done after that sex site thing but then started talking to a 14 year old girl. He's 25 years old. Am I wrong for thinking that's disgusting and wrong? He was calling her hot and asking her if she would date him regardless of his age and asked her what panties she was wearing. What should I do? Nothing will change will it? Should I just move on? (link)
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If your boyfriend had been unfaithful for 2 1/2 years then he isn't going to shape up now or 2 months from now not even a year from now... He isn't even going to acknowledge your conversations, Fights as he seemly doesn't acknowledge your existence.
Your boyfriend is going to do whatever he pleases so, As I speak you are too good for him. Are you over reacting? NO. You need to dump him, It is disrespectful and most of all it can fall right in the category of cheating. It is unfortunate that your boyfriend played your feelings for so long, but now that you've spotted an account on a website with a bunch of sluts, You have your red flag waving in front of you. At 25 years old, Talking to a 14 year old girl is very disgusting and very very wrong of him. This is highly immature of your boyfriend and if he were having a inappropriate conversation with a 14 year old girl then as I hate to use this word but that would be a pedophile. You need to move on, You are way too good for this piece of crap and you have a life ahead of you.
EDIT: I know it's hard, I'm sorry you have to go through this but if there is no trust in a relationship then the relationship itself is doomed and after 3 years of treating you like this he doesn't deserve you. There is always someone out there for everyone and as my personal opinion (I'd rather be single then date this asshole) You deserve a man who is going to love you for you and respect you in every way.
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I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way because he's acting like it's not a big deal. He keeps saying it's in the past... but that doesn't excuse him lying to me constantly. I can't trust anything he says and its just hurting me and making me go crazy. I'm just scared I won't find someone else... I go to an all-women's college and I love him more than anything. He bought an engagement ring... it's so hard.
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