I have a wealth of life experience, some because I've paid attention to other people's mistakes, and some because I've made the dumb mistakes myself. My dad use to say that experience was not the best teacher but the hardest teacher. Many, many times, I wish someone could have given me the heads up, but it did not happen that way. So without choice, I had to learn the hard way. I am willing to share my wisdom with you.
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Okay, so i'm fifteen years old
and i'm so insecure about what I look like.
Alot of people think i'm pretty, but for some reason I don't feel it.
I have a really low self esteem.
I worry about my weight, not because i'm too fat
but because i'm too skinny. i'm 5'4 and I weigh 98lbs. I have NO boobs, and NO butt. People Judge me all the time for that.
My body isn't the only thing I don't like about myself, I also hate my teeth I have had sooo many people say stuff about them, they used to be really yellow but I was recently taken to the dentist and I had that taken care of but I still feel like my smile isn't pretty.
People at school always talk about how i'm too skinny, it emotionally scars me because theres nothing I can do to fix my body!
I'm really shy only at school though, because i'm sooo worried about what people are thinking about me, though at home I can be myself because I know my family won't judge me.
what are some things I can do to higher my self esteem. I'm sooo sick of people at school saying stuff about me. (link)
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Dear Low self esteem,
I'm sending you a hug right now because I understand what you're feeling. (((hug)))
I have been called skinny. Not because I am, but because I wasn't plump enough in the right places. You know what I mean. Interestingly, now that I've gained a bit of weight, I sometime wish for those slender days, because I had good muscle tone and looked great in a bathing suit.
One thing to remember is this, there are very few things that you can do NOTHING to fix. You see that is true with reference to your teeth. So let me give you some practical advice.
Teeth - Pay attention to what you eat and drink. Smoking anything, coffee, tea, chocolate and dark soda will yellow your teeth in a heartbeat. Avoid them! Also, each day rinse your mouth in hydrogen peroxide before you brush. This is a whitener and will work to brighten your smile-just don't swallow any.
Weight - What are you eating? Make yourself eat breakfast - especially before 10am. Some meat, cheese, bread product and or potatoes. These are the foods high in calories. Eventually, you will gain weight. However, if you are active in sports, then you need to eat extra because you will burn off those calories. Eat more than your energy output. Don't stuff yourself, just eat often.
Then, get a friend to show you how to lift weights so that you have muscle tone in your arms and legs. Trust me when I tell you that muscle tone is the envy of women everywhere. Why do you think they talk about Michelle Obama's arms?
You - Yes I bet you are pretty. You just haven't paid attention to it. Ask those friends what is pretty about you. Listen to what they say. They may say your eyes or your hair or your lips etc. Whatever they say highlight it.
I remember meeting a guy who just went numb over my eyes and couldn't stop complimenting them. I was surprised because they're only brown. However, you can best believe that afterward I rarely left the house without wearing mascara and eyeliner. Hey, if my eyes are one of my nicest features, then I should show them off!
You have great things about you as well. You also have ways to improve what you don't like. Start taking action. As your esteem grows each day, you will also be able to discover and focus on your intellectual and creative talents as well!
Take care,
DeeplySetting
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Thanks :)
and I do eat ALOOOT. infact i'm suprized i'm not 500 pounds! I guess I just have a fast metabilism when it comes to my weight which runs in my family! but anyways, you give great advice and I will definatly listen and try the things you suggested. Thanks!
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