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THIS IS NOT NORMAL HIGH SCHOOL DRAMA. I'M BEGGING YOU TO READ THE WHOLE THING. PLEASE.
16/F
There's this guy at my school that has been literally obsessed with me for like two years.
He texts me constantly, and I used to text him back and we'd have these really cool intense conversations.
But then it got a little scary. About two months ago, he began to text me every single day like once every thirty minutes until I answered him back. And I'd have to answer him back, because if I didn't, he'd come up to me the next day at school and corner me at my locker and ask me to explain why I didn't answer him back. And he just would have this puppy dog look in his eyes, so he looked non-threatening, but he'd also be blocking my way out with his arms.
He's constantly leaving notes in my locker and on my desk in homeroom about how we're going to spend the rest of our lives together and have a bunch of kids. We are not dating.
I've told one of my friends about it, but it's embarrassing because I don't know what to do. Plus, he keeps telling me in every note not to tell anyone because they'll make fun of our "love" and he doesn't like it when people make fun of him.
This note thing has been going on for almost a month. And if he sees me flirting with a guy in the hall, he just gives me this look and then he'll corner me after school again. I'm allowed to flirt though, aren't I?? Well I can't anymore and I've stopped.
The puppy dog look has left his eyes by now.
And the reason why I've finally gotten up the courage to write this is because I'm all out of ideas. My friend that I told doesn't know what to do about it and she isn't really taking it seriously. And I'm too scared to go tell the guidance counselor about it because I'm pretty sure he'd find out somehow. (He tends to follow me around school). But the thing is that sent me over the edge is that he called me last night after school (today is Saturday), and his speech was slurred so I'm guessing he'd been drinking, but he said that he was planning on killing himself soon unless I:
1) stop flirting with other guys
2) stop talking to other people when he's around
3) have sex with him soon
He's crazy, right? What to I do? I was so scared last night that he was going to come over my house. I locked all the doors and I slept in my brother's room.
I don't want him to kill himself, obviously, but I also want him to leave me alone. I'm scared also too that with everything else that's going on (the notes about how we're going to be together forever) that if he does choose to kill himself, he's going to take me with him.
Please help, I'm so scared right now. (link)
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Tell a teacher, guidance counselor, or even a parent. This guy has a problem and it is not right for him to be treating you this way. It is one thing to have a crush but this is just taking things WAY to far. If you are scared then well...You have a damn good reason to be. If telling a parent means that you also need to get a restraining order then go for it. This is not just a case of obsession but this is a serious case of harassment and abuse. Relax, Go to an adult and tell them everything that he is doing. Save the text messages and the notes and bring them to an adult. This is NOT normal it is a dangerous situation that really needs legal action in my opinion. After you tell an adult, You also might want to make sure you don't want down the hallway alone. Walk with a group of friends, You can also let the principal know what is going on and ask if it's possible they move your locker to another location. This guy is nuts and needs to get his damn head straight
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This was comforting, thank you. And it was real advice. I really appreciate it. It's just still obviously going to be hard to actually put this plan into effect. =\ But I agree with you, like if I walk with a group of friends. I just wish I could get them to understand the severity of the situation.
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