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Hey. I am 17/f and he is 19/m. We have been dating for almost 3 years. He's a sophomore in college, and im a senior in high school. My entire life, all I've wanted to do is be an elementary teacher, and to be a mother and a wife. Im a nurturer. I cannot imagine a life without children and a family. I love cooking and i can deal with cleaning. Strangely, my dream is to be a housewife in a place somewhat south, such as North Carolina or something near there.. Although we haven't talked about it in-depth, only small hypothetical things, because i don't plan on marriage or children until i graduate college, my boyfriend, chris, has made it perfectly clear he does NOT want kids, nor marriage. He said he just wants to, "act like we're married, but not actually make it legal. Weddings are stupid and a waste of money." He wants to go into business and start his own company in upstate new york, or someplace cold because he likes cold and snow. I love him with all my heart. I don't really know what id do without him. He is the most important person in my life. I honestly don't know what to do. His little brother, who is now 9, irritates the hell out of him. Chris describes him as a spoiled brat who gets "instant gratification". While this is true, i believe that every child should have a chance to go through that stage. Chris said his little brother ruined kids for him and now he HATES kids. Now i need your advice. I dont want to put this harshly, but should i stay with him, or am i (i didn't know how else to put it!) wasting my time with him? I know at this point in time, there is no possibility of him wanting to have children. I asked him, what if i got pregnant by accident, and he said, "if you're not comfortable with abortion, that's fine. We would just put the child up for adoption." Should i try to convince him that children aren't that bad, or should i try to find someone else who shares the same ideals with me? Also, i dont know if ill be able to let Chris go. I love him so much, and hes pretty much my whole world, and i want to start a family with HIM. I don't know what to do or how to convince him. Please, help me? Thank you!

It sounds like you haven't even told him how YOU feel yet. He needs to know. Instad of just randomly breaking up with him one day, talk to him about how you have different things in mind for the future, and see what his reaction is. I think that if your dream is to be a mother and a housewife, you should get it, and you shouldn't let him get in the way of that. Maybe you two can work things out. Every woman deserves a child.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, you are the first person to answer that hasnt talked bad about my boyfriend. I wanted an opinion and you gave me yours. (:
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