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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now 9 on October 14th. He's 18 and I'm 16, we clicked the instant we met, only thing was he was a bit of a flirt. I've know him for about two years now, we'd flirt around and what not but I never took him seriously because of all the other females that were after him. He said he'd give up his flirtatious ways if I agreed to be his girlfriend. So I did, I liked him a great deal.
We "fell in love," or I did atleast. Everything was going well, we ended up having sex 5 months after we started going out, I sortah regret it he was my first.
Anyways, we've been having small problems. Well I think he thinks everything's ok, but he doesn't call me much. I'm always the one to call, usually.
At night, after 9 when he has free minutes. :/
Anyways, sometimes he acts as if I bore him, or he doesn't like me or love me...he gets annoyed and irritated with me for no apparent reason.
I want to know, does anyone think he's with me just 'cause of sex?
I mean he lives in chicago and I live in Aurora, he sees me once a week or so, we talk every night usually.
When we're together he seems to push onto sex fairly quickly.
I don't know what to do most of the time, I want to make him happy so I go through with it most of the time, we use protection of course.
But afterward I sortah feel sad, I feel kindda upset with myself, not sure why. Has this happened to anyone else?
I kinda get the feeling that's all he wants, but I do think he loves me, or did atleast at one point, but lately I been feeling as if he only likes the sex.
What should I do?
Am I wasting my time?
I love him alot, but (is this wrong?) love me more, and I've been hurt many times before and don't want to get hurt in the end.
He began to change since he recently started college...I don't know, could he be stressed?
Any help would be useful thanks. :T

i've had the same problem but it happens at different times , usually when he had lots of problems with his family and stuff. My guy wants to do sexual things also when we are together but i do too, so i think its more of the hes a guy, he loves sex thing. Your man could be having some problems too, but it seems like he still trys to get to see you each week. I say next time you guys hang out, try going to eat or a movie, and say you arn't feeling well enough to have sex. See if he still pushes you into it. Any guy that pushes you into anything is not being fair. I know how it feels when it seems like you're the only one trying to make an effort. You have to think about your situation and his. He lives in another town and he's in college. A lot of things happen in college & i know its so hard to think that way, but you can never really know what he is exactly doing over there. & since you said he's a big flirt, do you think hes flirting with other girls? I think you should talk to him , see if he's stressed out in college,see if he still wants to be with you since hes seems so busy with his other things. Ask him why he's been acting so different latly. & Ask yourself this, do you think you can handle being with him like this for another year? Sometimes it's better to move on.

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(Rating: 5) You're right, thanks. I'll do that the he's coming by tomorrow I'll comfront him and think about things as well.

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