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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

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ive asked questions about this but i still need some help. i found this guy ive known, but havent talked to in a year, on myspace. i added him and said hi..he messaged back and we talked for an hour and a half..i asked for his number..he gave it to me. the next day i said i was bored on my status..he messaged asking for my yahoo screen name..i gave it to him, and he gave me his name without me having to ask. we talked on aim for 30 minutes before he randomly logged off. i sent him a message (replying to what he said) and said "you left:(" and he said that he came back..i told him he could IM me if he wants because i was mobile and i couldnt see who was on so it'd be easier if he IMed me..all he said was "that sucks" so i got the hint he didnt feel like talking haha..anyway. a day later i was talking to the guy on yahoo. we talked for an hour about many different things..he barely said much until towards the end of our conversation..i ended up leaving because i had to go, i said bye..waited for 2 minutes before leaving, he didnt say anything, so i logged off. few hours later i went on his myspace profile because it said he updated it. so i go on, and hechanged his interests to only liking "spanish girls". now, he used to like me for many years (nto sure anymore) but, the thing is, im not even spanish! im white haha. but, anyway..he hasnt talked to me since we last talked on yahoo! (a day ago). does this mean he doesnt like me? please help! thankyou

Honestly, I do think he may like you still, even when he changed his interests. Guys do that sometimes and I don't even know why. A few crushes I had, kept giving me the message they liked me, but it seemed like they were playing hard to get when they were telling me about they're talking to other girls more. So I ended up getting the idea that he didn't like me, so I ignored him for a few days. Well after those few days, I find out he did like me.


Maybe you can test him on this: try IMing him in spanish like, hola, como estas or something. See how he reacts. Maybe the spanish girl thing could be a joke, too. You could also try temporarily updating your myspace profile to something that may catch his eye, and tell him to check your new page out and see what he thinks.


And I don't know your level of courage, but maybe try asking him if he still likes you? I always dread asking that to guys, you know? But I usually get the honest answer and I am filled with relief (whether he doesn't or does). You could say, "This may be awkward and I apologize, but do you still like me [as more than a friend?"] Or say, "I read your interests, and I am asking.. do you still like me?"


And if you want, tell him you like him as well. Not sure if you like him back, but you may say it to see what he says.


Or you can ask why he likes spanish girls over white girls? See if he's joking or just trying to find new people.


I couldn't see why he wouldn't like you anymore, because if he is talking to you that often, it sounds like he still has interest in you. Does he say anything in the messages/IMs that give you a sign he might still like you? That could help too.


Then I have another sided opinion thinking that since he hasn't spoken to you so long, he was trying to get over you, but you came around again, and he is still in the process of building those feelings back up. You could maybe ask if he has a new girl in his life, how things are going, did he miss you, etc.. nothing too obvious enough to tell him you want to know how he feels about you.


Now the day thing, he could be busy, though. I wouldn't take it personally if he hasn't been on in a day or two. You can try texting him, and see what's up with him.


The signs that I got he might still like you would be the long conversations, and asking for your screen name. He also accepted to give you his number. I don't know many uninterested guys who still do that.


So try asking him some questions without intimidating him, and if you have the guts, ask him straight out if he still likes you. He may think spanish girls are attractive, but he may find you attractive still as well. So try texting him later on, and see what's going on with him.


Guys are confusing beings. I won't lie.. so all you can do is try talking to him, and seeing how he feels about you. If you don't hear from him after a couple weeks, either something has happened, or he is trying to get over you. So far I don't see that happening according to the information you have given me.


If you got any updates, let me know, and I can help you out some more. =]. Yet I hope I helped anyway.. let me know if you need anything else.


Take care and good luck,

Leah

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(Rating: 5) thankyou so much! You're very helpful. I'll try some of the tips you gave me. I will let you know of anything else that goes on! :)!
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