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so there is this really hot kid in my school (let's call him Joe) Joe is really quiet and doesn't socialize very much. Well, every girl loves him and this one girl (call her Amy) made a fake myspace with a pretty picture of a random girl and flirted with Joe until they started dating on myspace. Well, my friends and i don't know joe very well but we feel like this girl is really crossing the line. Joe is kind of depressed and the fake myspace girl claims that he has talked about killing himself. I really really think i should do something, but i don't know what!

Maybe you should try to talk to "Joe" and befriend him more. He's putting all his heart into this illusion of a girl he met on myspace and that's all he knows. You know the truth behind it and that it's total b.s. so there's no way he's ever going to meet this made up girl. Maybe, by befriending him, it'll open him up more in a social setting. That creepy stalker girl can't run her act forever so she'll probably give up, or once he finds out there's no way of seeing her, he'll just let her go since he'll be more busy with his real life friends in school that he's made.

The creepy girl may or may not be lying about Joe's suicidal thoughts. She may be saying it just to keep you guys from telling him. But, if it is true, handling it the way I suggested above instead of flat out telling him might be easier on him. If you flat out tell him, he probably won't believe you and it'll lead him to be closed up more.

If every girl in school is really all over him because he's so good looking, maybe what he needs right now is just a friend and not someone who's going to be all over him and flirting. Maybe that's why he doesn't socialize either. The attention might be making him self-conscious.

So, approach with caution and maybe you can get him to loosen up and he'll forget all about this myspace girl. Good luck!

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