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ok so ill apologize now for how long it could get but idk what to do anymore. me and my friends Abby and Claire, weve all been best friends for about 4 years now. and then all of a sudden Claire wont talk to me and Abby.
how we thought it happened was because Claire had her own group of friends in her sporting event, soccor. and me and Abby wanted to try it and try out because we have a really small school so there really isnt much of a tryout. so we were going to practise over summer. well turns out Claire never wanted us to be on the team with her for some reason, even though weve been so supportive of all her sports shes ever done
Claire has always been a girl who if she can get someone to laugh then she does anything and everything, most of the time things shed get soo mad at if we did them to her. so me and Abby kinda talked to her about this, and we were really nice about it too.
then claire after that just stopped talking to us and now we all live pretty close so we meet up and hang out almost everyday. but we havent heard much of claire all summer. she said that we leave her alot when we hang out but the truth is, its always me or Abby the ones feeling left out, bc claire always seems to find a way to be the center of attention.
well we have another good friend who doesnt go to our school anymore her names Shelly and i guess her and Claire have been hanging out alot. Claire has now turned Shelly against us by i guess trash talking to everyone.
we dont know what to do because we miss her so much. this may seem like a lame situation but it really is bigger than it seems, and any advice would really help.
also in august me Abby and Claire were suppose to go to a concert and we have the tickets and everything but if Claire doesnt wanna go we also dont know what to do about that.
thank you so much for you help!!
It sucks when a friend is willing to give up on their best friends like that. And it sucks even more when you're so close that you'd be willing to accept them back despite their flaws, but they're not making any effort to even be friends again. The only thing you can really do is try to talk to Claire. Find out why she didn't want you guys on the team with her, and let her know that that really hurt you and Abby. Also let her know that you feel that the friendship is too big to end and you really don't want to lose her like that.
It sucks when friends grow apart, and sometimes when people get new groups of friends they tend to forget about who their first friends were, or they just don't take the time or make the effort to remain committed to their original friends. It sucks, but it happens a lot in life. Usually over time though, so that's why it's weird for her to just drop you guys like that.
You mentioned Shelly and said Claire turned her against you guys. How do you know? Has she not been talking to you either or giving you an attitude? Because if there's anyway you can find out what's been said maybe you can understand why Claire has been acting the way she has, and maybe find an in to talk to her about it.
If this doesn't work or she just cuts you guys off and acts as if she doesn't care, then maybe it is time to realize that she's not worth it if she doesn't seem to think your friendship means anything. But hopefully that won't be the case, because I hate seeing any good friends lose touch that way. Hopefully everything will work out and I hope the best for you =).
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thanks so much for your advice and we have talked to her and told her pretty much exactly what you said. and she never responded to that, so your probably right we just need to let her make the effort now because weve done all we can do
thanks for your help!
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