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I have liked my good guy friend romantically for a good 2 years now, but the problem is, his parents are super strict and have actually arranged a marriage for him. I think he might like me back, but is there really any point in pursuing him? I don't want to get my heart broken...
What should we do? (link)
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Okay, you've had some really wide answers, but i reckon i might have some good advice in this category considering i'm indian.
My family luckily isn't as strict as other families, they might in the future introduce me to some indian girls but they won't force anything on me...
This guys parents, is not YOUR problem, it's his, i'm not sure how he feels about having an arranged marriage though, he might be against it... so this is what you must do....
You have to tell him that you really want to be with him, and to ask him if he would really go through with a marriage without seeing if he wants to be with you too.. he might love you too, whats the harm in that? but the point is, you have to give him a choice because he's the one with strict parents not you, so it's up to him to make a decision not you. With this information he can either put his foot down and tell his parents to back off slightly till he's older so you and him can secretly see if things can work out, or he will just keep in tight with his strict family...
The reason i'm telling you to tell him is because in this day and age youth with strict culture such as this is starting to break apart especially when they aren't living in the same society as their predecessors, so I say you have a chance, but your young, you never know.. your relationship might end anyway in a year or 2, but "it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"
Consequences: okay, there will be serious consequences to you 2 being in a relationship - let's say you got married... - his parents would kinda ... dis-own him.. not entirely - but they wouldn't talk much of him to his other relatives, they would look down at him for not staying with there culture and for marrying someone not from there culture - they would look down at you as well. They might not want to have anything to do with both of you... I'm not sure how serious this can get because it depends how strict they are, they could grow to just put up with it, or they might even totally cut you 2 both off and never speak to you 2 again. Obviously it won't be this extreme if you were both just dating and you're only 16, but due to the age, be prepared for him to be in a lot of arguments with his parents fighting to keep your relationship.
I hope I helped...
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Thank you for your insight, you brought up some points that I never even thought of.
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