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13/f
I have been babysitting for my step mom's home daycaring service for 2 summers now. A couple of weeks ago I told her that I would work for her. Last week an offer came to my doorstep, someone my sister works for neeeded a baysitter. My step mom gives me $12 and day while the other #30 - $40 a day. I am going to high school next year and I am planning to save my money for college. I told my step mom that I can work for her the days that I am off and she got upset. My dad said that I should have stuck with my step mom... but this isn't all for me... this is for my furture of dreaming to go to vet college and become a vet... Now my dad wants to talk to me... what should I do??? (link)
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When family relationships and business relationships clash, there's always tension.
Here's a harsh reality: because you are 13, you can only go to work for your sister's employer if your dad says you can. He is your legal guardian and until you're 18, he can tell any potential employer that you are not available for hire. If that's his position, then your only recourse is to convince him otherwise.
Fortunately, you have a strong item in your favor, which is your plans for what to do with the money. Your dad would have to be pretty shortsighted to ignore the fact that for you to save for college, especially starting from the age of 13, is a very responsible thing to do, and he should be encouraging you in any way he can.
The essential problem, as I see it, is the question of whether you're getting a PAYCHECK or an ALLOWANCE. Up until now, I would imagine that your dad and stepmom have viewed your working for her as more of a chore than a job; it's something you've been doing to help out the family, and in return you're getting an allowance. You, on the other hand, are viewing it as a business arrangement separate from familial obligations. I suggest you approach your dad from that angle, and point out to him that as a stepdaughter, you are happy to help out your stepmom; but as a worker, you are going to go for the best offer.
If that angle doesn't help you, try this one:
You have an obligation to contribute to the family. Your dad and stepmom have an obligation to help you grow into a responsible adult. The second obligation is more important, and since you want to use the extra money toward a worthwhile purpose, your dad should be supporting you in that way.
One more thing: If you do take the other job, it would be correct business etiquette to give your stepmom two weeks' notice before leaving. Your new employer should understand and respect that.
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Rating: 5
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wow... you wrote a lot
thank you
from, pinkcherries
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