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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.
I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.

advice

i'm not a nice person. dont give me advice like "omg just lyk act nice." yeah i think ive tried that before thanks.

so yesterday i went shopping all day with my mom. it was so much fun and i enjoyed it a lot. but then later that night her boyfriend came over, watched a movie with her, and slept over. so then the next day is mothers day (today) and im like "mom c'mon its mothers day. i dont want to spend mothers day with my mother and her boyfriend. i just want to spend it with my mother." actually i dont think i said that. it was more "why cant he leave" but whatever.
anyways she said thatd "itd be rude to say he cant come to brunch with us" so i unwillingly went to mothers day brunch with my mom and her boyfriend and i ignored them whenever they said anything to me and i figured hed leave after brunch. but no. then they went to go buy a grill while i stayed home watching will and grace.

so they came back from buying a grill like 3 or 4 hours later and my mom is like "whats wrong why wont you smile or talk" and i said "because i dont like your boyfriend. hes wasting your time." (they've been together for 6 years and he refuses to propose and i just think she deserves better.)

anyways so today me and my mom planned to see 'baby mama' because it seemed fitting for mothers day. well, i told her i didnt want to go. and then she asked what kind of pizza i wanted and i said i didnt want any.

its mothers day. and my mom deserves so much better. i should accept her boyfriend being here and just treat her nicely but i cant seem to do that.

sorry its so long but i thought the story needed to be said so you can see how awful i really am before you give me advice on what to do about my terrible attitude i always give people.

happy mothers day.

well I wouldn't say that you're a horrible person based on this story. Yes, you were a bit rude to your mom, but its understandable. You wanted to have a special Mother's Day, just you and your mom. Unfortunately her boyfriend who you don't like was there, and it annoyed you. I'm guessing your around 13-15. and at that age the way you acted is completely normal. not excusable, but normal.

You should sit down and talk with your mom, and let her know how your feeling. try not to sound rude, but get everything out in the open. I feel like you're harboring a lot of feelings, and this might be adding to you feeling like a horrible person.

Also you probably should try to accept your mom's boyfriend, but you're not required to love him or even like him. You just have to show him respect and be civil, which isn't too hard to do. Just a simple hello every now and then and maybe a smile. And yes, 6 years is a looong time, but your mom is capable of taking care of herself. If she wasn't okay with the situation he would have been gone.

Anyways sorry this is so long, basically I just want to say you are not a horrible person, you just seem to be hurt/jealous/confused/upset and acting out.

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(Rating: 5) i'm actually 16, but i was 15 like a month ago so you're about right.

and thanks, i see what you're saying
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