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well i have finally come to terms that im a pessimist, and i hate it. but i really can not help it.

1)i REALLY dislike where i live and everyone who lives in it. even my friends. theyre definately the best here for me, but im usually unhappy when i am with themm.
2)i either bring everyone else down or bottle my problems up and become really moody. i am a moody person in general i guess. every little thing bothers me.
3)i have some things from my past that i cant let go of. i dont know how.

so i guess my question is :

with all of these problems that i can not avoid or change, how do i become a happier person? i am trying really hard to let go of my problems from my past. i am trying really hard to enjoy when im with my friends. i tried asking my parents to move. nothings working. what can i do? i just want to live happily.

welll id really like for this to be answered by:
someone who understands where im coming from.
someone who has had this problem and has been able to change.
someone who knows you cant always change yourself to make your life better.
someone who is realistic.




stories, tips, advice would be great. thanks


PS. sorry for the length

16/F
During many points in my life, I have totally dreaded going to school and seeing people who I disliked, which was basically the whole student population...It took me a while to realize that I can't change others as much as I can change my outlook. Once I had a brighter perspective on things, I realized that yea...some people are annoying, but they mean well.

The only way to rid yourself of negative thoughts is to stop giving them a voice. The less you speak of them, the less you'll think them.

You don't have to let go of your past, but you should locate some positivity. Think about how the event could teach you something vital.

Just stay true to yourself and tell yourself that you deserve to be happy. Don't limit yourself!

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