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15 / f

i have known this girl since elementary school, and we have been "best friends" (i've had other best friends in between until i realized it's pointless to have just ONE best friend).

i've never really had many classes with her throughout middle school, but this year, my freshman year of high school, she's in virtually all my classes.

now at first, we were both elated! we finally got to see each other more often.

but that soon turned around. by december, i knew that i was ready to burst. it hit me. she was absolutely perfect. but the ONE little tiny thing that just made me scream and caused nights of crying myself to sleep was the fact that: every. single. grade. in every. single. one of our mutual classes. she ALWAYS gets the same or (more often) BETTER grade than me on EVERYTHING. homework, tests, quizzes, projects, you name it. and it made me want to vomit. i tried SO HARD. i even bought a new desk to get myself motivated enough to do my homework and really really study.

no one has any idea i feel this way about her. i hate her more than anyone on the face of the planet, pretending to be her best friend. everytime i look at her i just want to slap her. that's all. just give her one hard slap and give her brain cells a little ride so she'll stop getting less than 110% on EVERYTHING.

and what makes it worse? besides the fact that she's always trying to ask me what's wrong and comfort me when she's the problem, after several tests we've taken, she's CONVINCED. like ABSOLUTELY FUCKING CONVINCED. that she failed. and like usually i HATE being like, "oh that wasn't so bad" cause i don't get a 100. but she was CONVINCED. we both get our tests back the day after, and she got an A and i got a B. and i was BEYOND irate.

i'm naturally an extremely jealous person, but she is in 203849023 clubs and she's always saying how she never has anytime to do anything yet she finds the time to do better than ME and i barely do one club.

someone has to help me. i'm seriously losing it. i try so HARD on everything and she reads a packet once and gets a 100 and i read it 20 times, highlight, and outline and get a 95. she's ALWAYS better than me. and i severely need advice on how the hell do deal with this situation. and it's not like i can just go upto her and be like, "dude, i hate you. you're too perfect." and i've TRIED studying WITH her but it makes me want to puke being near her. i tried, i tried. it does no good. i try to get away from her as much as possible and not talk to her but it's hard. it's not that she's a really nosy person, she actually cares about me. it's not that she's a bad person either, i just want to look at my report card and be proud. and i can't. i want to cry.

in conclusion, help me stop being so jealous of this girl's grades and / or life to the point of violent thoughts taking over my brain.

Why should she stop being outstanding?
Is it so you could be the one on top and everyone can envy you?

You say that you dislike the position she's in when it really sounds that you want to replace her. If you're going to be mad at anyone, leave her out of it. Very few people could be as good a friend as she is and you should embrace your friendship with her. She should be an inspiration to you. Do not allow yourself to get discouraged because your relationship with her should not be a competition. After all, no matter what: there's always going to be someone better than us at something...why not try our bests and be content with the notion?

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(Rating: 2) If you're going to be mad at anyone, leave her out of it. Very few people could be as good a friend as she is and you should embrace your friendship with her. < uhm. i'm sorry but first of all, i have other friends, ok? and i'm not actually mad at her, i'm just jealous of her grades. you failed to answer my original question.. how to stop being jealous of her. "do not allow yourself to get discouraged..." < WOW great. a monkey could have told me that. but i wanted to know HOW.

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