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im 16/f
the guy is 17. i really like this guy. he's gorgeous and has a really awesome personality. i normally talk to him in school but a few nights ago we both went to watch a track meet and he smelled like cigarette smoke like, he had just smoked it. i knew he did pot but i actually don't mind that. i never knew he smoked cigarettes because whenever i talk to him in school he doesnt smell like smoke. im one of those people who say "its their life, they can do whatever they want" and i really like this guy and im pretty sure he likes me because he's always trying to make cute jokes around me and hang out but i dont know if i can date a smoker? for anyone out there dating a smoker, and you dont smoke, how do you deal with the smell?

ironically my best friend is going through the same situation with a different guy.

Well, if he has been smoking before you two started talking, you cannot just ask him to stop. Also, just because he smelt like smoke does not automatically mean that he was actually smoking, the people around him might have been. You can bring it up casually in a conversation. Do something like, "Yeah, someone smoked a cigarette today and they smelt pretty strong of smoke, it was so iritating. I wish they could have sprayed something or used gum too, cause their breath was gross." You are not telling him directly about him, but if he IS smoking, he should take the hint.

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(Rating: 5) yeah i understand that most guys just dont stop smoking for anyone but its the first time i saw him smoke. i saw him smoking did i mention that? yeah so its not like he just smelt like it. and besides you can tell when someones smoked or just been around it. theres different smells

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