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I am a nursing student. My ultimate goal is to be a travel nurse.
I am happily married for over 12 years and have 3 children: ages 6, 4, and 2. Family is the most important thing in the world and I want to help families work out problems so they do not have to be torn apart.
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first off i would like to say that i really only want the older teens to adults to answer this please.
I went out with this guy for about 2 months and i broke up with him the beginning of june because my parents never allowed me to see him because he was a "bad kid" he was on probation,dropped out of school and was in a detention center for like 3 weeks and did weed,but he said that was all in the past but my parents forbidded me to see him or even talk to him.But after i broke up with him for about 2 weeks he said how much he missed me and that he wished my parents would change their minds.(while we were going out btw he claimed he "loved" me)so after about 2 weeks of us being broken up he goes out with another girl (even though like 2 days before he was texting me he missed me and called me,it got me so p.o'd) so i havent talked to him since june so thats like 4 almost 5 months and out of the blue i get a text message 11:00 at night saying "hey its boys name long time no see" and i said hey how are you and he said "im good,guess what im... engaged!" and i was just shocked he's only 17 and has been with the girl for only 4 months! then i said "omg are you serious?" and he said "yeah i got the ring and got down on one knee and everything" i said um oh uh wow i dont know what to say" he said"you dont have to say anything..so you...seeing anyone....your parents approve of? lol" and i said no and he "said oh you have plenty of time" and i asked him what sparked him to text me? and he said" i just wanted to see how you were doing :)" and that was it.I thought i was dreaming because i was half asleep when he text me lol this happened last night,and i just want some advice on what this means like why after 5 months does he decide to talk to me? i asked some of my friends and they said that he probably got the girl pregnant, he tried to make me jealous,and he wants me back.But like i just really want to know what ya'll think of this why would he tell me? and did i say the right things to him?(i thought i shouldve said more but i was like asleeps and i didnt want to argue with him) i dont want to talk to him anymore so i deleted his phone numbers and i didnt really want to go into detail about the engagement.
16/f
thank you very much :) (link)
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Your parents have your best interest in mind. It is always hard for a teenager to be told they can or cannot do something. Your not a kid anymore! But, believe it or not… your brain doesn’t actually hit maturity until 25 for girls… closer to 30 for boys!!!
So did you do the right thing? I think deleting his phone number and not wanting to be involved is the best thing you could have done. He may very well have been trying to make you jealous. He may have even been crying out to get someone sensible to tell him he is doing the wrong thing and he wanted someone he could lean on to get out of a mess. What ever his situation, you are only 16 and he is not your responsibility. That is a lot to take on; a troubled 17 year old who has a history of incarceration and drug abuse. He has a lot of growing up and maturing to do. Hopefully he will come across someone who can handle his situation and can get some sense into him.
He needs professional help. Anyone who feels they need to break the rules and drown themselves in chemicals is hurting. But they can also be dangerous. He may need someone to “be there for him” but that is not your responsibility and without knowing more of the situation… HIS situation… I can say good for you to want to stay away and avoid contact. After all, you could be the 16 year old girl pregnant with a baby who will have potential birth defects from a drug abusing father! No one deserves that.
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thank you so much! i felt like i shouldve told him more that he shouldnt get engaged but i thought i was doing the right thing staying out of it so now im more sure that it was the right thing to do thanks again :)
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