First off, I know how you feel to think about someone all the time, constantly and it hurts. But, from what you're telling me, he doesn't deserve to be on your mind like this for being a jerk and giving you mixed messages.

He knows how you feel and if he's not going to respond to that, then moving on is what you have to do. When he says that it's only lust and not love, don't take that lightly. That was probably a true statement and you shouldn't consider this guy again IF he tries again with you.

As for how to move on while staying friends is the impossible part. You can act happy for him, act happy around him, but sadly all you'll be doing for a while is acting with him. Because when the truth comes out, thats how friendships fall apart. I'm not saying you'll never get to be friends again, but for now keep your distance without completely shutting him out unless you want to act all the time.

I have some tips that I made by myself for getting over someone, but it's for more of a break-up so you don't have to do everything on it since this wasn't a break-up.


1- Distractions: When you find yourself really depressed and upset, turn on the TV or go for a walk. Go to the gym and workout or anything that takes your mind away.

2- Venting: There are times when you won't be able to take your mind away as easily. So you have to just deal with the feelings in your own way possible. Write in a journal, cry, call a friend, go walking, listening to a favorite song and sing until you can't anymore.

3- Limiting: It's ok to have days where you stay at home and be alone, but you have to limit those days. Staying at home in your bed may feel good every once in a while, but it won't if you do it repeatedly. Spend a lot of time out with friends or family members. Even if you feel horrible the entire time, it's worth it.

4- Dating again: You might be thinking that just because you don't have a girlfriend or boyfriend anymore you have to start searching immediately for another. That isn't true. You have to start dating again when you feel ready. Which could be a very long time.

I really hoped this helped and if you want anymore advice or have anymore questions I'm here:)

-TheTeenGirl

Hey thanks. yeah we had a huge fight last night.. and he really was acting like he didnt care. it really hurt but it makes him sorta easier to get ova cause he was being so childish. annway. thanks again. very helpful

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