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I am an attractive guy (35) and she's an attractive lady (28) but I'm forced to initiate sex 9 of 10 encounters and when she attempts to initiate lately I don't take her seriously to the point where I'll brush her off saying, "you're joking, right", then go about my business. She likes sex early in the evening whereas I like late nite romps, I enjoy sex to music, she likes to play the television while I try to sleep, she insists that I go places with her when I'm tired from working 2 jobs about 4 days per week while she works one job maybe one time per week, etc. We're polar opposites in many ways but my main question has to do with how I can explain to her that even as a guy I would like to be treated as an attractive man and have her initiate on an equitable basis. (link)
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My advice would be not to take it personally or feel she doesn't find you attractive, etc. just because she's not initiating. Some women have just grown up with it ingrained in them that the guys make the moves- and this is reinforced by movies, family, whatever. And some may not just be they type to initiate, ya know? Just like some people are leaders and some are followers.
So please, don't take it to mean anything more than that- because chances are that that's what is going on. But you can talk to her honestly and positively encourage her by saying how much it means to you when she initiates and that you'd like her to do it more often.
PS- also keep in mind that many women have much lower libidos than men and this could be a cause too. She may not have a problem if you start and get her going, but may need someone to rev her up, so to speak.
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Thanks, that's the best advice I've gotten so far as she seems to think she's God's gift to men and reminds me of this frequently while challenging me to find someone better/more beautiful/fun/intelligent than she is along with constantly reminding me that she can get another guy with the mere flappig of her skirt.
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