Whatever your problem is, chances are I have dealt with it- either directly of indirectly- at some point in my life. I've worked as a Social Worker (with issues like mental illness, addiction, disabilities, eating disorders, etc.)
I've also taught school (to teens!)and have experience mentoring them.
In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
So go ahead- ask away!
PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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hello. I know that how i see myself and think of myself is never great. I want to feel better about myself, because i feel like whatever i have on the inside isnt ever good enough. Why do i think like this?? How can i feel more confidant about who i am? Or feel better about myself? You get what i mean right? i think i have low self esteem or low confidence.. and i dont want to look in the mirror anymore and feel this anymore. I want to be a better person. i know that im not ugly, i know that im a pretty girl.. but its whos underneath thats all broken i think and just lost. (link)
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It's hard to say because there can be many reasons for feeling like this. Some reasons include: 1. you have too high standards or too high expectations of yourself 2. You have negative or overly critical people around you and you are internalizing some of what they say. 3. You have a history of physical / mental / emotional abuse. 4. You are just going through a transitional phase and trying to find your place, where you shine.
There are other reasons, but these are some of the most common. Ask yourself if any of these fit you. As I'm sure you know, it usually easier to solve the problem if you know the CAUSE. But you can still help yourself even if you don't know the cause.
One way is to treat yourself as you would someone else. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves then we are on others. What would you tell a friend who wrote you the same post that you're writing here? My guess is that you would be easier on them then you are on yourself. So treat yourself as you do others. In other words, learn to be a friend to YOURSELF.
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