Whatever your problem is, chances are I have dealt with it- either directly of indirectly- at some point in my life. I've worked as a Social Worker (with issues like mental illness, addiction, disabilities, eating disorders, etc.)
I've also taught school (to teens!)and have experience mentoring them.
In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
So go ahead- ask away!
PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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How do you learn not to care? Like..I try not to..yet in the end I care about things I really don't want to. How do I let go friends I don't want anymore and make my life hell....I'm really confused. Can someone help me?! (link)
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I've struggled with this before myself so I know how you feel. This answer is not to NOT care at all though. That will just make you a cold, hard, self-centered, and unpleasant person to be around- which I don't think you want to do!
So here's the trick, do things in MODERATION. It's not just a black or white issue, like you care too much or you don't care at all. Find a comfortable middle ground. Set limits! Otherwise you will just burn yourself out.
And second, make sure that you are caring for yourself first. That's #1, then you take care of other people.
Third, these things should be a give and take. It sounds like you're doing much more giving than taking. If your friends don't help you out when you're in need but always call for your help when they need it then that's not a great friendship. It should be a two-way street.
hope this helps. =)
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can you be my new best friend?! haha. yes i know it's a 2-way street..but not many know it. heh thanks!
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