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my two close friends are really "out there" like sexual and act really slutty, and whenever were out anywhere i feel like i dont fit in with them because i dont act like that. i have a lot of guy friends and i flirt but im not all sexual like them. i feel a lot uglier kinda beside them, so i hesitate to go up to guys with them. i dont know how i should look at the situation...

any advice/opinions would be great, thanks guys :]

You're okay. You just don't percieve yourself that way. You're diffrent, and being diffrent in this case is a good way. Be comfortable on how you are. These girls who put themselves out,most guys will say that they don't see them as girls who'd they'd want a relationship with anyway, these girls are there for hook-ups. Dressing sexy, acting sexual sends guys the wrong message, the message that you are easy to get to even if you may not want it that way, this will only cause problems and heartache for them later + plus, you only attract all the WRONG guys. Luckily, for you guys will see you as a girl they'd like to settle down with. Don't feel ugly beside them, you're beautiful in a classy way. Take it from me, I used to feel that way but I learned that it just proves I have more self-respect for myself. The way how your percieve yourself, it just means that you have more class and self-respect and that is a very beautiful thing. Just know that you don't have to dress sexy or act that way to get noticed by guys, you just have to have a boost of self- confidence in yourself, thats what guys notice, be funny, outgoing, you dont have to be sexual. Guys notice girls who take a stand for themselves.
Also, ++ being this way, you're a great rolemodel for the younger kids out there your'e sending them a good message. :)
Your'e a really great person, I'm sure and I know that others see you that way. Hope this helps, and be true to yourself!

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(Rating: 5) thanks a lot

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