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14/f
I'm a flirt, and I love being with guys and just being out there and fun. But the problem is..I've never really made out with a guy. Everytime I get the opportunity, I just clench up and kindof freak out. It's kindof like I don't know what to do, and I just don't wanna deal with it. Most people don't believe that I haven't been to THIRD, let alone first. Am I prude for being like this? I don't know what to do, cause everytime I could hook up with someone I feel all shaky and strange. (link)
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You're fourteen. Give it time.
I'd say that your feelings are perfectly normal, including the apprehension. Don't rush these things! It isn't a race to see who can advance the bases the fastest; physical intimacy is something you should do at your own pace, and at your own comfort level. I'd say that at this age, you're probably ready for serious kissing, and not much more.
Do it for the right reasons - don't do it just so you can say you did. You want your first kiss to be something memorable, not something you did just to get it over with.
Don't label yourself. You are certainly not a "prude" just because no one's felt you up yet. If you get to be 21 years old and still haven't kissed anyone, then you might want to re-evaluate, but for the moment you're on the right path. Those who get start getting sexual too early tend to eventually regret it - there's evidence of that all over this website!
So take your time. There really is no rush.
Incidentally, depending on how you define "third base", it might actually be illegal for a guy to go there with someone your age. You might want to check the local laws on that before you encourage some poor guy to commit a back-seat felony. Use Google, and look up "Age of Consent" for your state.
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Rating: 5
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Do it for the right reasons - don't do it just so you can say you did. You want your first kiss to be something memorable, not something you did just to get it over with.
That's been such an issue for me ^^ Thank you!
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