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I'm 15 almost 16 and i just recently graduated early with honors, and got a few full ride scholorships ( I always did summer school to get ahead and online schooling). But the problem is Laila and Kennedy, my 3 month old twins. I love them and they are my pride and joy. But i'm going off to college and i'm going to be living with my older sister in her dorm because we are attending the same school, and i can't take Laila and Kennedy. My boyfriend doesn't want to take in the children because he is going to be a senior this year and just wants to PARTY. My mom loves the children, but i'm afraid she is going to convince my boyfriend to give up all custody and have the children put up for adoption behind my back, because she is like that. She loves them but she doesn't them to screw up my life. And they aren't. They are just a big speed bump.
Any advice on what i can do with Laila and Kennedy? (link)
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First of all, that's amazing that you graduated so early and with honors! And even scholarships!
You should be very proud of yourself.
And now you are making a decision to go on to college, which I think is wonderful. Many people would just give up, with a 3 month old- let alone twins!
So you obviously are one smart chick. You may have made a poor choice in the past, but you definitely seem to have a good head on your shoulders now.
So what to do about the kids? It's hard to say exactly because I only have a little bit of info. to go on. For example, you didn't mention how far away the school was. I think that will be a big part of your decision, because if they aren't close it will be VERY hard as a mother to be separated from her babies.
You also didn't say why you can't bring your kids. I'm assuming it's because it's a dorm? If so, you should contact the university housing dept. and ask them about other options. Many schools have family housing, or apts. for people who are married, older, or have children. See if they have this, or can suggest anything. I think that would be your best bet.
And since your sister is there maybe she could move in too and help out while you are at classes.
About your mom- in order for her to adopt she would have to have consent from BOTH parents, not just one. But frankly, by the way you are describing her, I don't know if I'd want her to take them.
See about bringing them with you. There are always options. "will there's a will, there's a way'. This may not be what you had planned for your college life, but the alternative isn't that great either is it? And you may regret it in the long run. You will miss out on a lot of their lives- their first word, etc.
Think it over long and hard. Talk to counselors, housing people, etc.- get ALL of your options laid out- then chose the one that you think is best for you.
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