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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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this might be long but i need help please help. ok so i had a boyfriend who i really loved. and i know he loved me too. there were jsut moments when you know you can feel it. we were fine and all but then i broke up with him because he was acting different liek he wasnt the same we lasted 10 months. so i asked for a break. during that break i missed him so much and he always said he missed me too. we would always talk and such. but then i decided that i wnated him back. so i tried to talk to him and he told me that i dont deserve him and i said why? and he said if i knew all of the bad things that he did to me then i would neevr want to hear from him again. so i told him tell me. and he said tht he doesnt want to hurt me but that he needs to tell me to get it off his back. he said that he cheated on me. those 8 months out of 10. i thought i was going to die when he said that to me. he also told me that he had sex with 2 girls and that while we were at themall and i went to the abthroom he saw one of his exs and hang out with them. he told me he loves me, and i was the only girl that he loved but that he couldnt take me back becuase after what he did things would never be the same. he says hes really sorry and that he does love me. he sid i showed him what real love is and that he messed up things badly and i shouldnt be with him. he said i too good for him. but after everything he said to me i still miss him. why? how can i get hurt and still miss him? what should i do now? any comments advice? thanks! for the help i really do appreciate it!

In the beginning, you thought that your (now ex) boyfriend was this amazing guy who would do nothing to hurt you, no matter what the circumstances.
The key word in that statement is THOUGHT. You thought he was a great boyfriend, and you thought wrong. Anyone who cheats on their significant other isn't a great partner, no matter how sweet or wonderful he/she may seem to be.
What I'm trying to say is that you are in love with and miss the man you thought he was, not his true self.
Even if you got back with him, the relationship would be horrible. Everytime he goes out with his friends, you'll wonder if he's going to see the girl he cheated on you with again. If he cheated on you for eight months, he could easily do it again as he must be pretty sly if he kept it from you for that long. Rekindling your romance will do nothing but hurt you.

Have a girl's night with your closest friends. Don't keep all your deepest feelings inside; Let them out. Know that it's okay to cry, and that it's okay to do so on the shoulder of someone you trust.

You'll pull through this, I promise.

Good luck, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) thankyou so much you helped alot. best advice!
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