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I recently just moved to Moore,Oklahoma from Henderson,Kentucky. Everything is different since I moved like on the line of a huge city. I'm so used to living in a small town. Now school is coming up,and Im going to a new school with new people. I want advice because last time I moved it was a disaster. The school I went to was horrible, it was so bad that I wanted to kill myself(no one say I'm emo, i didnt cut myself). No one talked to me and I had no friends, i didnt talk to anyone and no one talked to me. Unless they were going to pick on me. I talked to my mom's friend, who is really friendly and has a bunch of friends. But I'm just so scared of another school that was so horrible that I want to kill myself. What should I do?
P.S. srry if it was a bit long. (link)
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Adding to follow up on your response:
Work on your self-confidence. See if you can find a counselor to help with this. You can also talk with your parents about it or anyone else that you trust and believe will have some wise advice for you. Read books about people that you admire and model yourself after them.
And remember, people will usually see you as you see yourself, and treat you as you treat yourself! If you see yourself as a loser, so will other people. But if you see yourself as a winner, then others will too.
So if you want friends, you need to start by being a friend to yourself. Stop being so hard on yourself and start believing that you can do it.
Think of it this way- if someone ELSE posted this up here and YOU WERE GIVING THEM ADVICE what would you say???
Would you still believe that they couldn't do it and the situation hopeless? My guess is that you would have a more positive outlook and be encouraging....so you need to use that same outlook and give some of that same encouragment to YOURSELF!
You CAN do it. And you will.
Just make up your mind that you will succeed and you will. The way you're thinking now, if that doesn't change your fears will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't know what that means look it up.
Take care,
Ruby
Find a club, sport, hobby or group that you are interested in and join up! It's a great way to meet other people that have similar interests and you just might make some good friends.
And try coming out of your shell a bit- be confident, talk to people.
You can also talk with the school counselor and ask him / her for help in getting acclimated to your move. They may have some other good suggestions.
And listen, none of this talk of it being so horrible that you wanted to kill yourself. At that age, everything seems so terrible, like it's the end of the world. And then when you get older (like me:0) you realize that those problems were really much ado about nothing.
Enjoy this time. Go have fun!
Think of it this way, you get to start over on a clean slate. No one at this new school knows a thing about your past (unless you have met some people already). So you can totally re-invent yourself! You can be whoever you want to be.
Use this as an opportunity to be a new you!
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thank you so much. Though i play a bunch of sports, i never had much luck making friends, and I am older, im 13, looking back on it, it makes me wanna cry. I still have no self-confidence. What if it turns out to be exactly like the school I went to. I know i have a clean slate and no one knows me, but i cant do that agian.
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