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In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
So go ahead- ask away!
PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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Ive noticed some things about myself and i was wondering if these are normal and how to change them.
I could go outside with my family and have the best day of my life, but then come home and after a few hours be misreable and angry.
When i am having a great day, it never seems to last. But after a little bit i can cheer myself up. But then ill be sad again.
I get to sleep at about 11 (or somtimes 2) at night (or 2 in the morning)
I have wierd eating habbits where i dont get hungry (expt i always love candy/munchies) until late at night, when i need to go get somthing to eat.
I'm a 13 year old girl
I broke up with my boyfriend (who i had been datin on/off for a year) out of the blue. (The day after i had heart surgery and he has been so suportive about it, saying he would visit me and everything) He was perfect and amazing but i didnt think i loved him and some days im over him and im happy for him and whatever new life hed like to have and i want him to get a girlfriend and move on and other days i just want him back. But i know i cant because i dont even know what i want.
Some days when i think about things my ex-boyfriend would do or say, it would make me be thankful it was over and other times the same things make me miss him.
I know im smart enough to get straight As but i get As and Bs because its so much simpler in theory. I get to stressed from all of the pressure of quizes.
I have high expectations of myself and i seem to fail most of them.
I used to think i had the best body but now im losing faith in my self image.
Im in-consistant in everything.
I used to think i needed to be perfect in everything..
Im inspired easily but easy come easy go.
I feel like my life is ina downward spiral and that im going crazy. But tomorow when im happy everything will look so clear.
What is my problem? Why am i like this?
Please help. Id love any advice that you can give me. (link)
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Ok, first of all, at your age your body is probably going through a lot of changes. That means hormonal changes as well, which can affect your moods. So these mood swings are pretty common for your age.
So are the sudden insecurities that you are feeling. Your body will be changing, and you will grow emotionally and intellectually as well. In other words, A LOT of changes are taking place. So try not to worry so much and realize that EVERYONE else is going through those changes too.
You said you also went through heart surgery?! That's a BIG thing to go through, for someone at any age. So considering the circumstances, I think you are doing great. And it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Don't worry too much. Or expect too much. Just be the best you that you can be. That's all anybody can do.
As to the second part that you added about everyone thinking you're happy all the time... maybe you are so worried about others feelings and cheering them up, that you neglect yourself?
A true friend will be there for you in good times and bad. So don't be afraid to share with them some of the not-so-happy aspects of your life. You would expect your friends to share this with YOU wouldn't you? So why are you holding yourself to a different standard?
Give yourself a break!
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Really, thank you. Thats the best advice ive ever gotten. Ive printed this out and taped it on my mirror. Thanx
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