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15/m
riiight i need a bit of advice, girls your the only people who can help. i love my gf to bits but she keeps like having loads of mood swing i know the period n all that but its not that:S she keeps having loads of mood swings and everything is ok with her family and all that i dunno what it is. so girls do you get like this at times?? and if so why:S its personal yeh but i could realy do with the help. thanks very uch:) (link)
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Well, you and I are in the same boat.
my ex used to become very emotional and take me along for the ride.
that included him being weird, moody and DUMPING me 3 times PLUS saying hurtful things which i could'nt manage to piece together as they werent true (or were extremely exxagerated)!!
well, now you've told me this i have alot of sympathy for you to be honsest!
it just sounds as if shes' a little inconsiderate of how this may affect you NOW becaue of what happened last time (her dumping you), and for reasons such as that its just irrational and unfair on your bahalf :(
well, you love her. you support her. you be there for her.
thats all you CAN offer.
and if she isnt grateful for that and can't see how much you care for her, then i'm sorry but you don't deseve treatment like that, and she doesn't deserve to have the privalage of having a caring boyfriend if she is just going to dismiss you.
hope that helped a little more :)
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hey
can i just say
i was actually dumped because of this.
ill tell you WHY i was like that, to help you understand :)
(if what i have to say doesnt apply, then i apoligise, im just trying to make you understand how its the things you may not even realise affecting her moods :( )
i doubt you treat her badly, but when i was with my boyfriend, it was really great until he broke up with me after 10 months. i had the occasional mood swing mostly due to hormones. however, then we got back together a month later which changed everything. i was having mood swings every week because of HIM and we broke up about 3 months ago because of it.
he was blind to it and so didnt understand, let alone ASK why i was like this.
( by the way, im not saying youre at fault at all, im just talking from experience)
he was TOTALLY in control, and this made me doubt to whether he loved me or not.
its not JUST that, it was tiny things like he may have canclled our plans, and i could never trust him.
sometimes it went as far as he would call me a name and not mean it but i took it to heart because im sensitve. and then wewould argue.
i became VERY paranoid which caused me to be VERY snappy around him.
of course, he couldnt understand this, but im hoping youll have more tollerence with her, by trying to understand...after all women have these as it is preparing them for motherhood.
if worst comes to worst, youll go a few days without seig hr so she can cool off. explain to her how you feel, and maybe youll be able to talk abiout it and explain that you may feel that its ruining what you have.
but if you love her, dont break up with her.
because that will contradict your emotions, and make her feel totally at fault.
i didnt have anything to be mooday about either apart from him. maybe its different in your situation.
She may have things she doesnt want you to know, like it may be school stress, or she MAY be having family problems, but doesnt want to say anything.
It coud be something realy samll to you, but big for her...for example her best friend may have copied her hair style or bought the same top as her.
it IS normal for us to be depressed or moody without a reason though.so dont worry :)you wont get this because luckyily, males are not as emotional as females! haha
all you can do is appriciate her for who she really is despite her "alien" personality, all girls have them. try to support her as much as possible and i know itll be hard, but she really doesnt mean to act like this.
if we could help it, we wouldnt do it :)
sorry this was a bit long, but i hope i helped somehow.
i would have offered more if you explained the situation a little further :)
you sem to care for her a great deal if youre seeking help.
good luck and i hope all goes well :)
take care
Alex
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theres one more problem though:S id never think about dumping her but for some reason last time she got lie this i got dumped:S n it really messed everything up :S:S what could i do to stop it happening again?
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