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Hey. Basically Im depressed. About my whole life. I have different issues like school work and guys and i really do not want to go to an adult about this. I dont know if im really depressed or am i just bored. Like i havent had a boyfriend since october. I really dont know, i should be very happy right now because i won this contest, but im not. I cry everyday, and nothing big happened that i should be depressed about. I mean there are little things but seriously im so confused right now and i realy need help. I do talk to my friend but she has no adivce cuz shes going through the same thing. Please help

Don't worry sweety, I went through the same thing! You do sound a little bit depressed, but not too far into it. When I was depressed, my grades went down & I thought I was some hideous girl who didn't know how to deal with her life. But the only reason I thought I was hideous was because I didn't have a boyfriend. I was depressed because the most popular girl in school, auditioned for a TV show & got the part & I wanted to be an actress, then I realized my "friend" only wanted me for his own sexual desires & I heard he was at the movies the other day with a whole bunch of other girls. I was crushed. Then my best friend turned the whole school against me! And when I got mad she told me she'd kill herself if I wasn't her friend even though she put me through so much. My grades went down, I had a weakened relationship with everyone around me & I began to alienate them all. I thought my whole life was falling apart. But then I realized, you only see things negatively when you choose to. In other words, you have control of when to be happy again! I talked to my mom about my depression, & she told me that all my cousins went through the same thing when they were my age. & It was my turn. It's a phase that everyone goes through around 13-16 because it's part of growing up. Hang in there, hun. It'll be okay, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! When I was feeling this way, here's what I did.

Step 1) Let the pain hurt. You HAVE to let it get to you, it's the only way to forget about it. That "friend" of mine who only wanted me for sex I was telling you about, transferred so I was really upset. I had dreams about him coming back to the school & all I did was avoid him. Weird, huh? Then later I found out that my dream was because I was ignoring the feelings I had about him, I cried off and on for a few weeks then I was totally over him.

Step 2) Write it all down. I write depressing poems, that's why my username is Depressed_poet. I write sad poems or stories I've been through that aren't the happiest, then I look back and I'm able to say, "Wow, I'm glad I got that outta me. I feel so much better, not that sad anymore." You'd be amazed at how much just writing things down or talking to someone can help.

Step 3) Think positively. No matter how many times you ask yourself, "Why am I so sad?" because you can't figure it out, you'll end up resultless. Because the truth is, there really is no particular reason, everyone goes through this phase. So don't worry, you don't sound too depressed. Exactly what I went through :D

And don't worry, because you can get yourself back again :]
If my advice doesn't help you, talk to an adult. I know you don't want to, & I didn't want to either but you'd be surprised at how much they know. And shockingly, they DO understand! & Since your parents are the ones with the least influence over you at your age, it's important you try to stay close to them. They can help you get therapy or medicine prescribed if it's too severe. But I don't think it's anything to worry about. Nothing you should lose sleep over after talking :)
Hope I helped you!

With Love,
Depressed_Poet

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(Rating: 5) wow thank you so much, your advice sounded just EXCATLY what im going through right now. Ive talked to my mother about this, and we are debating whether to to go to a doctor or something but im shure i dont need it. Its weird becuase sometimes im happy but sometimes im downright sad. Confusing how it works, but thank you sooo much for the advice, it was REALLY helpful. God bless and take care
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