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"Some people come into our lives, leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same."
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I have been in a relationship with my partner for just about four years. I recently moved to another city to study, while he stays in my old town until the end of the year.
I moved away because I felt that I needed some space and our relationship hasn't been meaning as much to me as it used to for some time now.
Recently I met someone very special who I have pretty much fallen head over heels for. They feel the same way and I'd really like to be with that person - and I really am not the kind of person to be impulsive or fall for people easily. I really mean it when I say there is a special connection between us.
So I need to break up with my boyfriend - I don't want to carry on our relationship, even if things don't go anywhere with the other person, because the fact that I am feeling the way I do means it's not fair on either of us for our relationship to continue. But how do I do it? I am so scared, because I know he still loves me very very much and I don't want to hurt him, I think he's a great guy and he has been my friend since we were kids, but I'm just not in love with him any more. This is a really difficult situation so I'd really appreciate some advice. Thanks :) (link)
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Wow, I could not have come across a better (or worse...you know what I mean) story. I am in almost the exact same situation as you, but I must say, I am younger (most likely). I am 14 years old. But still, I think we may be able to help each other: I have a boyfriend of three years, but our love isn't going anywhere. In September he went to high school, and I to my last year of middle school. I met a great guy, though, in his second to last year of middle school, who I really, really like, and he likes me back. He always smiles and looks right into my eyes when we talk; its just so wonderful. Anyway, I didn't know how to break it to my boyfriend, and have been fretting about the whole issue the past few days. I realized that I will just ask the guy I like for his screen name and get to know him while I am in a different school next year (now with my boyfriend....could this have POSSIBLY worked out any worse??) And after my summer job (spent with my boyfriend) I will let him go very easily. I know that he will be sad and it will be a hard thing for both of us, because I've been through it with him before (breaking up, then going back, because we weren't ready yet). But I want him to know that I'm ready to just be the friends that we truely are (because we havn't even kissed yet and we've gone out for a few years!) So I hope that you can do the same thing too and everything works out alright. My boyfriend often showed me that he loved me more than I loved him, which made me sort of pretend. But I am not going to do that anymore. Neither should you. Lets get through this together!
Sincerely, Slush Puppy
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Hey :) Yeah I am older - I'm 19 - and I had lived with my boyfriend for two years, so there was a lot invested in our relationship! Anyway he flew up to see me this weekend and I realised that things really weren't right and had to tell him. I can't even begin to tell you how hard that was - he wanted to marry me!!! But I am so glad that it is over and done with, I feel so much better and sometimes you have to put yourself first, even though it means hurting someone else. It sounds like being friends with this guy is the best thing for you to do, particularly if you haven't kissed yet. I wish you the best of luck and even though it's a cliche - follow your heart!
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