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I'm a mom of two, who has had her share of problems, and likes to help others with their own. I love helping people, and knowing that I can make a difference. I can't help with everything, but I'll always try to make people smile and just feel good about themselves. I've had more than my share of family drama and problems; what with my parents coming from two different and clashing cultures. I've also moved around a lot and had to deal with changing schools and all the trauma of making new friends and fitting in. I'm good with questions about friends, relationships (love, family..you name it), tough decisions, technology, and other weird random questions.
I'm a great listener, but I make sure to understand both sides of the story as well.

advice

Someone who I trusted so completely, who I could tell anyting too, and I adored with every fiber of my being told me that she doesn't care about me anymore, or how I feel. We faught occaisionally, but all friends do. But these past few weeks thats all we had been doing, so I told her how I felt. Everytime we faught it was because my opinion wasn't the same as her which meant: I was ignorant, I didn't know anything about the world, and of course I was wrong. I'm so tired of being always wrong, especially when its just an opinion or belief. I wrote a long letter explaining how I felt..begging her to treat me right. She told me all she could give me was apathy. Later when I tried to sort things out with her she told me I was nothing but a drama queen...like I was stirring up crap for no reason. She said she didn't want my forgiveness because she believes she didn't do anything wrong which means - suprise! I'm wrong again. She said she didn't want to make peace with me. She didn't care about me anymore. In her eyes I'm nothing but a self rightgeous idiot. It couldn't have hurt me more if she had just killed me herself. How after being friends for a year she can treat me this way, I do not know.

I invested everything in her, I loved her...she took it all away. I've never felt so hurt in my entire life. I suppose I do sound like a drama queen..but I don't know how to describe it. I've been crying for the past three days..I've never felt this way before.

She doesn't even care what shes done to me.

I try to keep myself busy, but as soon as I stop it just hurts again. I can't sleep anymore because I can't stop crying. I haven't slept in over 40 hours. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to feel better. I don't know how to stop hating her for what shes done for me. I don't know what to do. I just...don't.

Somehow I think shes not worth my time..not anymore. Shes not worth my tears or my thoughts, but I can't help it. Any help would be appreciated. thanks.

and yeah its long, sorry.

your reaction to her not wanting to be friends with you worries me a bit. but my advice is just leave her alone. and like you said yourself shes not worth your tears. i had a friend who was like that, I did nothing wrong, she got upset, and then we stopped talking. I apologized, but she said she could never forgive me and the best she could do was be civil acquaintances. so i gave her her space, and we ended up not speaking for a whole year. and now.. we are inseparable. she realized her mistakes, and i realized my mistakes. we grew, experienced life and learned to appreciate each others friendship more. losing one friend is not the end of the world, there are many many other people, and making friends is what helps us grow. sorry for the long response, the gist of it is to just give your friend some space. She'll realize her mistakes sooner or later. :)

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(Rating: 4) I've spent everyday with her for the past year, and I don't trust easily to begin with. I have reasons for feeling the way I do. Thank you for you advice.
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