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ahh! so i have this big problem =(
i get reallly shy around this guy i like.
and its getting worst every day!
ahh. in the beginning it wasnt that bad but now its getting worst and worst. ahh and i hate it. i mean i try to pull myslef together and get a grip and face him but im just too scared to!! why do you think that is?
also i want to be around him but once im there i pretend i dont know him and he wont talk to me either, hes the same as me.
but its weird becasue we used to talk in school a lot and we talk online almost everyday for atleast an hour!
this like almost never happens to me.
well it does everytime its a guy i like before im freinds with him =(( help me to get myself to RELAX and talk to him already!

"How did you learn to walk when you were a baby? You fell. But the important thing is that you got back up. " -Lauren Cronin

Do you get the message in that? It means if you ever wanna get anywhere, the only way you'll do it right is if you do it wrong the first time. You're afraid of him thinking you're some loser, aren't you? Well everyone is. And losers are the ones who don't get up after they fall. So what I'm trying to say that if you talk to him- YES, You WILL get scared and you WILL be rejected eventually in the dating world. And that's life! But if you don't jump back into the dating world, you'll never learn to live in it. Does that make sense? Hope so. You're not afraid of HIM rejecting you. It's not the chance of the fact that he won't like you back that bothers you. It's the rejection.
But everyone faces it.
And you'll live on.
So go ahead and talk to him, IMing, email, texting, or even in person. He probably thinks it's weird too that you guys don't talk anymore.

Bottom Line: You're gonna fall. And you're gonna succeed. You don't know if you'll fall or fly with this guy... so you're afraid. But can you name somebody who HASN'T been afraid? Relax! It's life. Everyone does.

I really hope I helped!
I've been there. But you'll see yourself through it.
No worries

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(Rating: 5) wow thats very inspirational.
and i dont know i tend to do that a lot though. ah like i have a problem facing people or akward situations. =( like i wont even look at my ex boyfrineds even though we dont hate each other and they want to be firneds.. its soo weird =( but thank you
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