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I've been dating this guy for a month, and he's been really sweet - like he's just everything I'm looking for in a guy. Unfortunately, he's ALWAYS so busy with his fraternity, with college, & his job, that he never usually has time to see me. So, I only see him a like one/two days a week, and it's not that much because we live really close to each other. I've always been suspicious that he could have another girlfriend, and I've joked around, not thinking it could actually be the truth.

So, tonight we were on a date, and he was dropping me off at my house, and he was showing me a couple pictures of his cat on his phone and then all of a sudden he gets a call from someone called "Babe" with an area code of Austin, [we live in San Antonio.]

As soon as I saw it, I was like, OH BABE!? And he's like, "WHAT?" And I'm like, Ohh so you do have another girlfriend, and he's like, "ooh fuck this, you need to trust me."

Then finally when I got him to calm down he's like, "It's a guy, named Babe -- he's my friend."
& I'm like, oohhkay. I didn't believe it & I still don't. I called my best friend and she said he's probably playing me. Which makes me sorta sad.

Does it sound as if he's cheating, and if you think he is, how can I find out who this "BABE" person is?

Thank you. :]

Okay, so when me & my boyfriend first started talking to each other, I looked through is phone. I forget why but as I was scrolling through the phone book, I saw "baby." My body started to get hot & mad I was but I didn't say anything because we weren't really even together. After that I kept my eye on him but one night his friends were coming over to drink & watch boxing with us & come to find out, one of his friends is called baby. And that's no bullshit because were years into our relationship & everyone still calls him baby.

Point is, yeah, it sounds like bullshit but he may be telling the truth. If I would have cursed him out about "baby" in his phone book & he told me it was his bul, I wouldn't have believed him one bit.

I think the only way for you to really find out is to ask around. Or tell him to call "babe" in your face right that second on speaker phone & say that if he is telling the truth than he'd do it. Matter of fact you take the phone & you press call so that he doesn't try any tricks. & if he brings up trust, just say "well I'm sorry, you can be telling me the truth but if you were in my shoes I bet you'd feel the exact same way." Try it out. If he doesn't let you call, he's playin you.

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(Rating: 5) Hey, thank you. The sad part is, babe was his girlfriend and right after I posted the question, he texted me and told me it's over because his girlfriend found out about me & him. Ahhh, thank you.
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