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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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who ever said that ex bf/gf's can't be JUST friends??...well theyre right..almost. ugh, i swear my ex says he was cool being friends at first but i kinda wasnt only because i was SO hurt. now later on we became "friends" but lately he's being such a jerk. like all he does is be mean..not like punch you or kick you mean like verbaly mean. it drives me crazy because one day were like nice to eachother the next he gets me really mad because he gets mean. i don't know whats going through his head...what do i do? what is he feeling? what does it mean?

I know a few broken-up couples that are still friends. The relationships didn't end on bad terms, though, so that's probably why they're still friends. I know that this doesn't really apply to your question, but I just wanted you to know that it's possible, but rare, that couples can remain friends after a break-up.

Anyway, why is your ex being mean? I honestly don't know the exact reason, since I don't know anything about your relationship and how it ended. I can give you a possibility or two, though.

He could still be bitter about the break-up. He may have been nice at first, and he could have been hiding his feelings. But, as we all know, hiding your feelings only makes them come back strongly later on, and that's what may have happened with him. He could be expressing all of the pent-up anger now.

He could also be mean because he doesn't know how to act around you anymore. He might be expressing his frustration by being mean. I know that sounds weird, but anything's possible.

What do you do? Well, I don't care if he's your ex or some random person off the street; Anyone who treats you badly in such a way isn't worth your time.

However, if he isn't mean very often, you can explain to him that the things he says hurt your feelings. That should open his eyes a little bit, if he doesn't realize that he's being mean. But if he doesn't change, you need to stop wasting your time on him. A mean person is a mean person, ex-boyfriend or not.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) this was a great deal of help.
and we ended up breaking up because he left me for a gurl who was his ex but she broke it off again.
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