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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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If best friends fight, and they've never fought before, does that mean they've stopped loving each other?
People have been coming up to my friend and me and saying 'sorry to hear you two are fighting.' Is it normal to fight? We're not really, but there was an issue involving the guy she's with making up stuff about me. I talked to her about it and this whole dramatic thing started.
Can we fix this? I told you, we've never fought, ever, in our three years of friendship.
What can we do?

Most, if not all, friends will fight or argue at one point in a friendship. It's healthy. One little arguement doesn't mean that you have a bad friendship, or that your friend doesn't love you anymore.

You need to talk to her about it again. I know that talking to her in the first place may have caused some drama, but nothing good will come from this situation if you sit there and do nothing.
Since this is between you and her, talk to her alone. Involving more people will only cause more drama.
Let her know that what the guy said hurt your feelings. Tell her that you care about her and don't want to lose her friendship over this.

If she says that she's sorry, accept the apology. If she doesn't show any remorse... that's when you should reconsider how great your friendship with this girl is.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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(Rating: 5) Thank you SO much. I will talk to both of them. I never considered that fighting was healthy, but now I see.
Thanks for understanding.
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