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iv have big trust problems ever since my ex from like 2 or 3 years ago has cheated on me multiple times. and now ive been going out with this really great guy for over a year and i still have trust problems. i always think hes going cheating on me or if he stays an hour late at work hes doing something. i also hate it when he looks at half naked chicks on tv because i get jealous. can anyone help me become... normal? (link)
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you are not abnormal.
i have the same problem.my last boyfriend cheated on me...ok..it only lasted 3 months, but he was my first boyfriend, my first everything, so no wonder it hurt so much and left me emotionally scarred.
i trust anyone too easily, and because he betrayed my trust, i feel i can never trust a boyfriend again.
you and i probably have the same dillema that we were so badly hurt, we subconciously feel that all men are out to get us, the same as the last ones were, and no matter how great a guy is, he is going to hurt us, because others have.
ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and i only trust him 90% which is awful because i know he'd NEVER cheat on me, BUT theres a little voice in my head saying "yes he will- watch out...you can't trust him he's going to hurt you". and it all my ex's fault.
however, ive been telling myself for a long time now that you have to move on from that stuff...HES A DIFFERENT PERSON,and its quite insulting to my boyfriend ,to compare him to my ex...after all..hes' my ex for a reason, because hes a bastard basically, which im sure yours is too.
its easier said than done, but we have to realise we cant go through life acting like this, as we'll only drive them away.
tell your boyfreind how you feel, i think you neeed to discuss it, and want to be reassured (which STILL doesnt work for me) And i feel awful because im making the ralationship harder. after all....there has to be trust in a relationship for it to work.
i wish you the best of luck, and i hope my advice has helped.
and btw...i get jealous when a half naked chick appears on the screen even if my boyfriends NOT there..because come on...wel all want to look like a plastic girl :)
and in actual fact, i can guarantee your boyfriend loves YOUR body more than the half naked chick..because its YOUR BODY.
hard to understand sometimes, but true :)
take care :)
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