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anyone please this is not that long and i really need help. Sometimes my parents can be complete IDIOTS. im not allowed to go skiing because My dad SAYS that im going to get hurt. I cant do an article for school on RAPE because my mom doesnt like it and now i have to stay up to research another one AND memorize it. (btw im 13/f) These stupid choices of my parents are making me depressed and i even cut myslef because of it. I cant have a boyfriend untill im 17, i cant wear a tampon yet, MY MOM DOESNT ACCEPT THAT IM GROWING UP. IVE TREID TALKING TO HER ABOUT THIS BUT SHE WILL NOT LISTEN. Seriously, My dads decision about skiing. I mean COME ON. IM GONNA GET HURT WTF. i know my parents care about me but they need to let go! They will NOT listen to me when i tell them all this. I cry all the time and i dont know what to do. Sometimes my life is perfect and sometimes i want to die. What i really want to ask you guys is what can i do now? Ive talked to them, that doesnt work. I know a note wont work and they WOUDL NOT go to a counseller or anything. I honestly feel that if i sucide myslef, they might learn something. (Also, im indian if that helps). Is anyone can help me PLEASE do so.
First of all about the skiing, it's reasonable that he's afraid you'll get hurt. That's just something parents do. No boyfriend until you're 17!? That's insane. They might just be afraid you aren't responsible enough or you'll go off and have sex. Which I'm sure is not the case. Ask your mom when she had her first boyfriend, and she'll tell you and if it's younger than 17 it may just be because she made a mistake and she doesn't want you to make the same one. But try talking to them and tell them "Please listen. This is important. I won't be here forever, so listen to me now. I know you're afraid of me having a boyfriend for whatever reason, maybe because you don't want me to make a mistake you might've made in your past. But I won't make the same mistakes. I'll make my own. I need room to make a big mistake, or I can never learn. Let me do this, I'm growing up and I love you but this is getting serious. I cut myself recently and I'm getting very depressed. I need some freedom." But remember to say it calmly, and respectfuly! But keep in mind that, you could have it worse. Much worse. I once watched this show where a mother wouldn't let her daughter walk in her neighborhood alone and she was about 15. Hope I helped
(Rating: 5) yeah well my sister is turning 16..im not shure if shes even allowed to walk in the neighbourhood alone..sigh*...well thanks alot