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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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I have a crush on this guy that is in my english class. We are total opposites, but i cant help but to like him. I mean, he is popular, and I am just plain normal. I dont know him very well, but i really want to get to know him. Only, I am scared that he is a jerk (most popular kids in my school are). So anyways, any advice on how to make him notice me?

You should be friends first. That way, you can see if this guy is really worth your time and effort. You probably already knew that, but I just wanted to put the idea out there anyway.

Also, don't automatically assume that he's mean. I've had so many first impressions of people I've liked, and they've usually been wrong.

The best way to get a guy to notice you is to talk to him. If it sounds simple, that's because it really is! There's no secret for getting a guy to notice you. Talk to him about the book you're reading for English, or ask him for the homework assignment. People love compliments, so you could tell him that you like his shirt or something along those lines.

When it comes to body language, be open and nice. Smile. Don't cross your arms or legs. Don't look away from him; Look into his eyes a few times. That automatically makes you seem more open and easier to talk to.

Don't let his "popularity" intimidate you! He's a person, just like we are. Be confident in yourself! Take the risk. If you don't, later on, you'll look back on this and wonder what could have been, and regret not trying to get to know him better.
If he's a jerk, it's his loss, not yours.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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