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Q: I know no one can really tell me what to do. Its a "my choice" kinda of thing, but I need input.
I have a boyfriend and we'll call him Tom. Tom when we first started to go out, was nice to me and treated like a princess. Now that we have been together for a longer time, hes not. Tom behind my back to my friends calls me a bxtch, whore, slut, dumbaxs & anything else you can think of. Tom will tell my friends that they can't talk to me anymore, so now I'm down to like 5 friends when I use to had alot. He hung up on me last night on the phone and then today when I said something to him about it, he was all nice to me again.
What's the deal ? Should I break up with him ? I kind of want to, but I dont want to hurt him. I know me being happy is important but I shouldn't go around hurting his feelings should I ? ANY advice would help me alot. So thanks.
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first of all, i know that it may seem that he was really nice to you at first and everything, but if he is a jerk now, then he was never really a nice guy. i noe that its very sad, but people have coverups and sometimes we get to know someone for who they really are not. so, i doubt that he could have just turned mean, he just had a fake identity before. for the friends that listened to him, they aren't you're true friends because they should not have listened to him. i don't mean for that to sound mean at all, but they definatley are jerks and deserve to hang out with eachother, because i don't think they deserve to be hanging out with nice people like you. but, it also depends where you are finding out this information. how is it that you know he is calling you all of these things? did you hear it from the friends that are turning your back on you, because if you are it seems to me like they are not a very trustworthy source. they are just as bad. so, what i say is try to think of where you are hearing this from. if you know you are getting it from a direct source, than i say that you should not be afraid of hurting him because he is definatley hurting you and he is doing something terrible to you. if you think that there is more to this story than meets the eye, you have to find out where its coming from because maybe tom really has nothing to do with this. hope everything turns out well. xoxo
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it was comming all from a direct source, if it wasnt i wouldnt have listened to the person.
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I started this column when I was 15 years old, so you'll notice that the advice has gotten better and better. I've always been interested in counseling and I started this column to gain experience. But, I found a lot more than that. I found a support system of caring and loving people. I received a degree in child development and currently working towards becoming a school psychologist. So, I hope you can feel confident in trusting me with your questions. This is more than just a fun site for me. I look back on my own questions from years ago, and I laugh when I read about my problems at 16. I've really come a long way! I'm relatively young, but I've had several experiences in life that have aided me in helping others. I hope to use those experiences for the greater good and help others who are not in their ideal situation!
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E-mail: Gender: Female Age: 26 Member Since: February 1, 2006 Answers: 269 Last Update: May 12, 2018 Visitors: 20711
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