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I really need to start taking my own advice.

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I'm really popular at my school, probally the most popular girl in my school; but I don't like any of the jocks or popular guys at my school who like me. I like this one guy who is in a totally different group than the one I hang out with. He's not someone a bunch of girls like, and he's not really popular. He hangs out with the punks and rockers and people lke that, and I do dress punk, but I don't no how to talk to him. I don't have him in any of my classes and he doesn't know who I am. A couple of my friends know him, but my other friends would kill me if I became friends with him or went out with him. Which I can't because he has a girlfriend at the moment , but for now I just wanna get to know him. What shoild I do?

First off, people might give you the whole speech on labels shouldn't mean anything. But I get your point, the cliques and such are not going to change anytime soon so you might as well go along with them.

Try finding sometime to talk to him.
JUST him, you and him alone I mean that way
you won't have to worry about your friends just
yet. Find him in the hall, intro yourself, and ask him if you guys could meet in the library alone or whatnot to hit things off. Get to know him, see if he's worth the hassle. You don't want to dive in deep and cause a bunch of unecessary drama if he's not even what you're looking for.
Show him theres another side of you besides a stuck up popular girl, this way he'll want to get to know you more too.

Now, once you've talked to him and started flirting, work on your friends. Since you're the popular one, the school will accept your change, obviously if they worship you right?
But as for your close friends, let them know you're really into him and you'd appreciate if they took the time to get to know him since you have strong feelings for each other. "If they're your true friends, they'll understand" yeah thats not always the case, just remember BFF before BF okay?

Now now now, you don't want to have that "I'm popular I can get anything I want attitude" considering he's got a girlfriend. So for now, stick with being friends. Don't break them up, that'll lessen your chances of him wanting you and the school accepting your new boyfriend. Give it time, and if/when they break up, don't jump all on him at the first chance, you have to be patient. Just keep a smile on your face :)

Good Luck

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