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Q: Advicenators, help me, I think I might be heartbroken. For three years now, I've been stepping over bodies for this one guy to notice me, I've really done everything. I live for him. There's nothing I do - if it doesn'thave to do with him. And I can't remember the last time an hour went (just an hour!) without me thinking about him.. so im obsessed. but that's not the problem, the problem is... everytime i get close to him, or confess my feelings for him, he does the same to another girl. i dont udnerstand! he doesnt seem to be rejecting me, he's always saying "i miss you! i cant wait until i see you and get to SHOW YOU exactly how much ive missed you!..i wish we could be together!" and so on, so i donot think its a way of rejection..but still, its weird.. here's an example, we were IMing and i was like "i miss you!" and he was like "i miss you too - you and your beautiful eyes! and then the next day his away message is about a firned of his (who i know) and it says "i love loretta and her beautiful eyes!" and like if i would tell him "i was watching the simpsons and it made me think of you.." the next day he'll tell this girl loretta " i was watching our show, one tree hill, and it made me think of you"

you know what im saying?? like i dont know what to do! its so weird! and i cant stop crying just because his name was about HER beautiful eyes when thats what he always compliments ME on!
It will take very long for you to get over this guy, but what other choose do you have other then to just keep being heartbroken for a couple of more years? It's definetly far from worth it. Three years was way too long to keep trying.

Stop trying to figure this guy out and start moving forward with your life. You will continue to think of him, but start looking at some other guys you are interested in because you've waited too long on this guy. If he wants you, then let him come to you! If he starts telling you he misses you, just say, "Aww" instead of, "I miss you too" you'll feel better. Don't read his away messages unless you must know where he is. But it seems to me that he doesn't like to tell where hes at.

I think this guy can't seem to know who he wants, so he's complimenting every girl to recieve the attention he's getting. So, backfire his plan and don't let him feed on your attention and he'll eventually learn that he has to make a move sometime. As for what you do in your spare time, work on something else instead of being on the computer. It'll keep you from reading his messages and give you some space from him.

-TheTeenGirl

thanks you soo much! i really needed to hear that! thank you! im asking you another queation right now about him!

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

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