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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).


I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.


I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.


I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.

advice

im 17 and i have a job but i work maybe 3 days a week. My dad never works around my schedule. he always plans Activities on the days that i work. And he does it purposely. Like the whole family will go bowling, out to eat, to an amusement park or the movies. And of course i have to work. And when i get upset or pissed about them doing things without me i get yelled at about it.

its drving me nuts. Im still part of this freakn family. What do i do?
thanks

- We can do these things everyday of the freakn week but its always the days i have to work. I have explained and begged and said please plan things when i dont have to work, but they dont.

I think it's great that at 17 you still want to do family things. Your Dad should appreciate that. In addition, it's great that you are working..I am giving you a pat on the back:-) It would be nice if your Dad would be more understanding. When my oldest was 17, he never wanted to go anywhere with us as a family. He always had some excuse, and would have rather been with his friends. That's pretty normal, chosing friends over family. I am guessing your Dad doesn't realize that he should be honored that you want to spend time together. You are growing up and will move on with your own life someday soon. Your Dad will probably regret that he didn't make an effort to make arrangements to include you in the family outings. Perhaps you could point that out to him.
In addition I am wondering what would happen if you would plan some family activities on your days off? Tell your Dad that since he overlooks your schedule, you just wanted to be sure you were included. Make him feel really important..tell him that you miss him! Guys (even if they are our Dads) like to feel important you know. Best of luck :-)

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(Rating: 5) Thank you. i have asked him to schedule things on my days off and he says he has to work. but he gets out most of the time by 3pm. And i dont really work alot during the week.
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