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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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This girl named Leah lives in my neighborhood and goes to my school.

We used to be best friends sadly, until I kind of tried to keep my distance from her. The reason why I wanted to keep my distance from her is because she acted like total jerk to me for no reason (I'm not gonna list what all she did to me) and then went and cried to me telling her to forgive her. All of my friends were attacking me, so I forgave her and I really wish I didn't do that.

She's is an effing stalker and I'm not kidding. She copies EVERYTHING my friend and I do (Yeah, it's supossed to flattery. Well, it's driving me crazy) All she does is talk about my other friends and when I'm not around all she does is talk about ME behind MY back. She wrote my friend a note today and my friend showed it to me.
This is what it said:
You probably are wondering why I was upset this morning. (I talked to my friend who she wrote the note to and my friend said that she didn't even notice and plus she didn't really care. ) Well I was confused, annoyed, mad, and upset. Katie (Me) has a problem. Dayna (one of my other friends) yelling at me for copying you two didn't help either. I'm already upset enough and plus I'm on my period (I'm on mine too so wtf.) She wont even get within a bazillion feet of me (She's obsessed with me and my friend. I was a foot away from her today so I guess she's blind.)
God, she goes crying to her everytime she has some stupid problem with me and says all this crap about me.

ALL she does is talk about how she hates all of my friends. She started cussing at me when I tell her to stop and I stand up for them. She will sit there and talk and talk and every word she says is a lie. She has seriously changed so much since I first met her. I know she isn't going to go back to who she was. I honestly think she forgot who that actually IS!

She's been a jerk to me lately and I want her to leave me alone. I don't want to be her friend anymore and she can't get that through her head! I know this kind of sounds mean, but if I told you what all she's done to me you would know she's the one who is mean...not me.

I have her screen name if that helps.

How do I just slowly let our friendship fade or just plain out tell her I don't want to be friends with her anymore?

I think you should flat out tell her how you feel. You already tried to keep your distance from her, but that failed.
Plus, you don't need to be hanging around someone who causes drama and is just plain mean.

When you tell her, make sure that you two are alone, that she's not in a bad mood, and that you don't yell. Yelling will only make her defensive and less likely to listen to what you really have to say. Try to avoid arguing, too.

Say something along the lines of this, "_____ (her name), you've been really mean to me lately and I don't like it. I don't deserve to be treated like that. If you're going to keep being mean, I'd prefer that we not be friends anymore."

Forgive her. Don't be mean to her, but don't become friends with her again.

If she continues to follow you and be mean, you probably want to get help from an adult.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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