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I want to date this guy who I have been quite close friends with for years. We have always liked eachother as more than friends (although it was sort of on and off since we went periods without hanging out) and that is what kept our friendship alive. We have always acted like we were dating (to some extent) and I'm quite sure it would be long lasting between us. I think he is going to ask me out within the next two weeks since we recently told eachother for the first time how we really feel.

Now the thing is that I have had two boyfriends in the past but never told my parents so they think I have never dated a guy. They know I hang out with this guy a lot and he calls my house sometimes asking if I wanna come over. My parents have never met him since I always go to his house and he has never been at mine (because I don't think my parents would allow it).

I am a really good liar and I know I could hide it if I was dating him, but should I? What would be the benefits of telling my parents rather than keeping it a secret?

If I tell my parents (if he asks me out) that we are dating and they don't approve they would probably think differently about letting me go to his house even as friends. If I keep it a secret and get caught they may find out other secrets I have since I basically live a double life (I am a straight A student but I drink and lie to my parents a lot, but they think I'm 'good' and don't do drugs).

Sorry about that being so long but there are many factors and I am running out of time to make a decision
Lying just makes you guilty and constantly worried of getting caught. If you don't get those guilty feelings, then you're obviously lying and probably not even aware of it.

You don't even know how your parents will react to you wanting to date. You've never asked them before. Be mature and give it a chance. Say, "Mom or dad, there is a guy that I'm interested in and I think we might become more than friends, I was wondering if you wanted to meet him." or something along those lines. If your parents find out that you've been dating and hiding your life, then they'll know that you are hiding more than that and you are. And then they won't trust you to date or go out! So give your parents a chance to voice their opinion on dating at your age. Don't get bratty and throw a fit, try your hardest to understand their wishes for you, besides, they probably trust you because you do great in school.


-TheTeenGirl

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