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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).

I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.

I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.

I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.

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Ok so heres whats happening,
a little while ago my uncle lost his job, went in to depression and said he was going to commit sucide and then my friend started to slit her wrists and i'm getting scared. It's makeing me sad and i don't want to have to deal with her of even be around her cause i can't take the stress but at the same time i don't want to loose my friends.
If i don't hang out with them they will tell me i'm becomeing antisocial and thats not what i want i'm only 14 and this is way to much for me to deal with please dose anyone know what i should do? Or a way to relax

thanks,
becca

You don't have to be around these people to help them. Tell a trusted adult, like your parents, another relative...call the police. Let people know that you know about this.

This is a lot for anyone to deal with yes, and if it causes you to be stressed out don't be afraid to remove yourself from the situation. To let go of your friend's pain, does not mean to stop caring about them. The people that are all doom and gloom all the time are energy vampires (in fact there is a book like that) They drain the life right out of you! Don't let this happen--or you will end up feeling down too!

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(Rating: 5) thank so much-sorry it took so long i just came back to the site :)

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