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Q: Hey, you seem like you know what you're writing about. I like this girl at tennis, and I have liked her for quite some time. Unfortunately, tennis training only goes for an hour and a half, and I'm not on her court for most of the time. We talk, and we are friends, but only as much as time allows. I would really like to get to know her better. This week, I joined the superleague team, which is a club vs club competition, and she is in the team. I think the only reason I joined was because my friend is in the team, but more importantly she is. I don't have the courage to tell her how I feel about her, also due to the fact that I don't want to ruin our limited friendship either. Do you have any suggestions or plans of actions that can help me here? Thanks in advance.
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I think it's really great that you're trying to reach out for her and try to be something more to her than just a friend, but you should take it on a different way.
Instead of jumping up to telling her your feelings, ask her if you both can hang out outside of activities. That way you really can get to know her and you can take thing from there. It is very hard to get up the courage to tell her your feelings, but I know that if you become better friends, it won't be as hard.
Whether you want it that way or not, friendships will get a strain in them if there are feelings and rejection comes into play. The best way to handle broken friendships is to still be her friend even if she's not interested in you. If she does happen to tell you that she's not interested, just say, "Ok, that's ok with me but I'm hoping that we can still be the same old friends we've been and not let this situation become a distraction" or something along those lines.
The next time you see her and she's not doing anything, just say, "We should do something outside of tennis" or "We should go see that movie ___" and strike up a conversation that will be inviting her to hang out.
-TheTeenGirl
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Thanks. I'll try something like that. :)
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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.
I haven't given advice here in so long and it's only because I got caught up in life. But I'm more mature than I ever thought I could be.
So anyway I'm here again. It's been a long time, but I still love giving advice and still plan on it in the future.
Everyone should feel free to Private Message me for advice, I can be harsh, but I'm always trying to help someone by giving them the truth they need.
About My Ratings:
I enjoy ratings. And if I ask a question on here, I always rate the person. If you work hard to give advice, you deserve to be rated.
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Website: Gender: Female Age: 17 Member Since: January 18, 2005 Answers: 1364 Last Update: December 8, 2007 Visitors: 82395
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