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Is this something wrong with me?
It's not a constant thing, but I have some real problems with anger at times. For example before.. Mom and I were in the car and I was crying.. been bogged down by stress, friends issues, and a recent breakup. Then I totally lost it because I felt she wasn't listening to me. I started throwing everything everywhere and kicking and screaming, telling her to listen to me. she tried to act all "calm" about it and even tried to change the topic and ignore what I was saying. I got mad and told her to stop being calm and lose the tone. I got even madder, and then something snapped. I put my fingers in the car window, and pushed the button up until my fingers got caught and kept doing it till I screamed in pain. I also bit hard into my hand in anger and the marks are still there.
I have never done anything like that before. Mom and I haven't spoken since. I feel terrible about what I did. I have no idea what got into me. Is there something wrong with me, or was this just a one-off thing, like losing control for a moment? I feel really ashamed because my mom is good to me, and I went and did something like that. What should I do? Is this a serious problem that requires serious help?
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Sometimes people go through a serious stage like this, it's simply a build up of stress created by social, work, lack of sleep, headaches etc etc problems. As you said, you had some social problems.
People let it out in very different ways, you might attack someone, break things, or harm yourself - like you did. Clearly you didn't want to attack your mother because she - as you stated is nice to you; so you attacked yourself probably in connection to the kind of problem you had - something making yourself feel bad?
This isn't too massively serious, it depends, if your a teenager which I guess you are, then most of the commotion could have built up from hormones hence the actions.
This is what you can do about this though to stop yourself doing it again: work on your control, anger and emotions. Control would largely be covered by atending a martial art or something else which takes a lot of inner control. No one deserves to put up with bottling anger all the time, let it out, but not on yourself again, a martial art again would help with this as well, during a sparring (fighting) session, otherwise you can get a punch/kick bag to use at home, and you can even start weight training, most sporting activities will allow u to channel your anger out, as long as it takes effort, sweat and blood (not so much on the blood bit). The only thing you can do about the emotions is perhaps meditation/ active meditation, just start giving yourself lumps of time daily to think about yourself - calming yourself.
Just follow that, and you will be fine, and even enjoy it.
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thank you very much. that was great advice
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