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Q: Okay i am haveing major boy problems please help me. Here is goes. Theres this boy that i have known for 4 years that i am completley in love with. He has a bad temper problem,he says rude things,gets jelouse easy, & has trouble showing his feelings about me. Well we have gone out SO many times in the past for years. For about 1 year and 7 months we haven't talked but at school he always looks at me with this kinda i miss you look on his face. well we started talking again and went out about 4 times this summer already. But we broke up all those times. like 3 times me and 1 time him. He gets mad so easy though.Okay now to the next guy. This guy is my ex-boyfriends best friend. Me and this boy went out 2 times and he is amazing but our relationship lasted like 2 days. i just couldn't go out with him cause i had feeelings for the other boy and this boy was like my best friend. But my emotions keep switching and i don't know if i like this boy but i don't know if i don't. Well me and my ex boyfriend had a big fight because i smoked weed for the first time and we stopped talking and i actually thought i got over him wel he called me and he told me he missed me and he loves me so much and i got off the phone with him and started crying. i don't know what to do please help me ! Give me your opinion and read this carefully ! Thank You !

I am very concerned about the first guy that you've known for 4 years. If he gets angry, says rude things and gets jealousy easily, and has a bad temper problem, then he needs to be out of the picture when it comes to having him as a boyfriend again.

All of those are really big signs of a controlling relationship. And even if he weren't being controlling, it's still not qualities in a guy you want to deal with. In order to have a good relationship, you have to be respected and trusted and he will not give you those things and you know that too.

You've stated that you had to break-up with this other guy because you weren't over the first guy. That tells me that you still aren't over him and you should probably ditch both of these guys. You should take a break this summer and let yourself heal from this first guy that you aren't over.

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My name is Erin and I am now 18 years old. You may realize through out looking at my column, some of you love me and some of you flat out hate me. There's really no gray area with me I guess you can say.

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