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Hey everyone! My name is Kristen, I'm 20 and I'm a college junior studying pharmacy. I've been blessed with a really good life, and part of the reason for that is because I've learned to see GOOD in everything that happens to me. I love giving advice, and I've been told that I do a good job at it, but I'll let you decide! Feel free to ask me anything... don't be shy, that's why I'm here. I've been through a lot... moving from one country to another, leaving and finding new friends, break ups, boys, middle school, high school, college, self esteem issues... pretty much most things that people need help with.
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alright so heres the deal. me and this guy used to go out. we went out like 6 times, and one time was almost for a year. He's always the one dumping ME, but somehow we end up back together again. Six months ago,he broke up with me so were not currently going out, but i still really like him, and i think he likes me again, too.Maybe he changed, but Im not sure if i should just keep giving him chances? but i really like him. Do you think its a good idea if we go out? Or should i just get over him? THANKS ALOT.
hey!! alright this is kind of a difficult question. i was once in a situation like that, and i kept breaking up with the guy because the relationship got pretty serious, and i got scared and decided i wanted to experience the single life before commiting to him. we broke up once, and then we kept talking and ended up getting back together (and then breaking up again) like 5 times. i would break up with him, and then decide that i wanted him back, but once i got him back i would want to be single again and so on. it's such a terrible situation but i was really confused and didn't know what i wanted. we eventually broke up and stopped talking for almost a year (9 months) and in that time i lived the single life. we just got back together and are trying to do it long distance because he is now in the army! :(
ok aaanyywaayy the reason i told that whole story is because it is difficult to tell why he wants to get back together with you. does he want to do it because he is actually ready to settle down for good now, or does he want to do it because no one better has come along in the time he was single and he wants to fill the void? if i was you, i would make him wait for it... tell him you need time to think about everything and stop talking to him and seeing him for the next 2 months. in that time, you should be able to see if you really want to be with him, and he should be able to decide what he wants as well. if he still wants to be with you, then he might have changed and he could be ready for the relationship. i think if you get back together with him right away every time he comes back to you, he will feel like he has all the power and he will break up with you whenever he wants, knowing that when he wants you back you will take him! that's bad and you don't want to make him feel that way... so make him wait. after that, if you feel like he is ready, then give him another chance, but be prepared to get hurt by him again. if you don't feel like you want to go through the pain of breaking up with him again, then don't give him another shot. it's all up to you.
you guys could be right for each other, but it could be that the timing is wrong. if things aren't working out now, you never know what could happen in the future if both of you still have feelings for one another. the point is, if he feels like he is not ready for a relationship yet, you won't be able to change him. he will have to stay single until he gets it all out of his system. otherwise, he will never be able to have a meaningful relationship, because he will never feel ready for it. so i say let him wait a little bit, and if you think he has changed and are willing to take the risk, then go for it. but if he hurts you again, deffinitely kick him to the curb and find a new guy! let me know if you need more help and good luck!! :)
(Rating: 5) omg thank you so much. :]